Learn from my mistake

[Michelle613]

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Originally Posted by Jess how about if FI's parents are contributing NOTHING?!?! ah this is another story for another thread though.... haha

Same here It sucks but its not FI's fault he was born into a weird & broken family. My parent's aren't that well-off either, I'm just starting law school, and FI went back to school- this should be interesting.

[cancunbride]

We are paying for this all on our own also. But we said it from the beginning that it was going to be like this. We didnt want to expect anything then get nothing. MIL said she would give us a few thousand and came up with $O.OO cents last minute. Overall, we paid for everything and not complaining. It is what it is..

[JOSIE]

love this thread! my mom only had 14 people at her wedding, and on top of that i am the only daughter and granddaughter. My parents went to a DW and fell in love with the idea so they are paying for pretty much everything. MY FI's parents refuse to give money because it's his 2nd marriage and they already contributed 10K to the bitch that cheated then left him after a year (hes only 27 and we've been together 2 years...). I'm trying not to be bitter about it because they stated that they have the money but they already contributed to "1 wedding". I consider myself lucky that my parents are willing (and able) to bear the cost and we decided to help and pay for our honeymoon!!! I agree with Virg though, we just avoid the topic so its not awkward!!

[Hartyt509]

Dad said he would pay for our trip but I refused - our wedding our problem.

 

FMIL said she would give us a wedding present of cash! Yeah £200 lol apparently thats what she has given all the kids (there are 4 including FI) lol I said oh how did she pay for a wedding with £200 lol

 

In other words she paid for the other weddings and then gave them £200 but FI just gets the £200! lol I couldn't care less it's less to tell her to shove up her arse if you ask me lol

[niujess]

The FI and I are doing everything on our own. I have had a couple family members complain at the fact that we're living together and we're going to be engaged for over a year and a half before the wedding. The DW is the way to go. It saves us money and we don't have to invite those annoying extended family members or your mother's friends who you absolutely hate.

[liz1717]

I completely agree with your advice!

[Soon To Be Mrs. Gomez]

Well neither parents are contributing as far as I know. My mom told me she is going to give me $400 but yeah I will not be telling his side of the family.