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#1 hollym

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    Posted 30 April 2009 - 08:59 PM

    Don't tell your parents how much money his parents are contributing and vice versa. There will be bitterness and tension. Unless both of your parents are supercool in which case, consider yourself lucky!


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    Posted 30 April 2009 - 09:32 PM

    oh man, i wish i had posted this thread last year so you could have avoided it all together

    i was in your boat a little too hopefully it will help the next girl!

    #3 jawedding

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      Posted 30 April 2009 - 11:15 PM

      ahhh I'm just debating about this.. what happened
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      #4 BillysBride

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        Posted 30 April 2009 - 11:16 PM

        Well, this should be easy enough. We're paying for our own. lmao

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        #5 Jess

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          Posted 01 May 2009 - 12:35 AM

          how about if FI's parents are contributing NOTHING?!?! ah this is another story for another thread though....


          #6 islandbride317

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            Posted 01 May 2009 - 05:37 AM

            I'm with Savannah -- neither of our parents are contributing anything more than paying for our respective wedding day attire, and paying for their own rooms/flights. Other than that, I guess we're lucky to be avoiding all potential money conflicts between parents, since we're picking up the tab for everything else! It's a hefty burden, but in the end we think it's the best way for us to go to avoid any "who contributed more" kinds of situations!

            I can understand that it is a source of tension and I'm sorry you had a bad experience -- money matters can always be counted on for driving a wedge between even the most well-intentioned people!

            #7 Jenamie

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              Posted 01 May 2009 - 05:51 AM

              Well my mom knows what my dad is contributing because I was venting to her (but thats another story)

              Though my FI is so funny about money I dont know what his parents are giving us, he just says its for the honeymoon and what he buys hehe

              #8 ACH2009

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                Posted 01 May 2009 - 09:07 AM

                Sorry to hear you ran into this problem...That's the one reason I'm glad we are paying for everything ourselves!!
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                #9 tylersgirl

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                  Posted 01 May 2009 - 09:16 AM

                  I guess I am just lucky! Neither sides have complained once!

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                    Posted 01 May 2009 - 10:18 AM

                    We luckily haven't had any issues (yet)...but FI's parents demanded to know how much my parents were contributing before they told us how much they'd contribute. And even then, they decided to contribute 1/4 the amount. So I don't know why they cared so much...??

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