Posted 24 May 2007 - 09:13 AM
BTW, a short FMIL vent of my own..... Cain's Ma doesn't get that when we move (in about 4 years) that she's not moving in our home with us. I've told her countless times that she can live in a house in the back of our property but she IS NOT living under the same roof. Why would she want to live with me again, I mean we were at each other all the time when she was staying with us. God I hope she finds a man within the next few years....
Posted 24 May 2007 - 11:10 AM
I think the desire to 'people please' is what she's feeding on right now. It sounds to me like she's hoping to "win" you over to her line of thought so she can get what she wants. As an in-law, it's easy to get sucked into wanting to please the new family, but that's the biggest reason why Erik needs to be the one to completely deal with his mother about any sensitive issues regarding the wedding---- if you stay involved and try to be the nice, accommodating FDIL, you risk having issues with Erik because the wedding gets too large. If you are the one telling her no, then you become the 'bad guy' and wind up with resentful feelings being directed at you.
Posted 24 May 2007 - 11:46 AM
He and I didn't even argue about it last night....We are both tired of the situation....so we just let it be.
She now has time to think about it over the weekend and on Tuesday I'll be going to her house after work to pick up my dress and if she wants to talk about list then we talk, I do need her list though
Posted 24 May 2007 - 12:16 PM
Posted 24 May 2007 - 04:51 PM
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