Well guess what I didn't give her the weekend to think about it.
Ok...I wanted just to ask her about her hotel list that she was looking at so I could give Tammy an idea of what I'm looking at to book for hotels. Well the conversation with Carol(FMIL) went well in the beginning but then it turned to the worst. She mentioned that she was having a bad day today and a bad day last night and then she went on to say that she tried calling everyone she told of about the wedding and told them that she had to cut the list, that Erik and I only wanted a small wedding....Well she said everyone didn't say ok we won't come, we understand....nope she said that they are all planning to come either way.
Well she started to get angry with me and kept saying that she would pay for the extra people which I told her that's great but it wasn't about the money, it was about the amount of people she would have vs. the amount of people I would have. I told her how much it was going to be if we split it evenly down the middle (she pay for her 40 guest list, and my mom pay for her 40 guest list)(about 7,000) Well she then said she had to think about it and that she had another phone call coming in and hung up....
Well I end up calling Erik much later and he says I was an idiot for calling her and mentioning the wedding....That she called him and is very very upset. He said I should have waited to talk to her after this weekend.
I'm sorry I only wanted to know her hotel ideas......So now I'm screwed with her being angry with me.
I'm tired of this....I'm not going to talk to her till after this weekend. But I really really need her guest count so I can order flowers and invitations.....
sorry needed to vent.