What to say to friends that are not invited?
Posted 26 June 2009 - 03:29 PM
To Troy'sBride: That is awful that they would challenge you to justify your wedding choices. In fairness, I didn't fully appreciate the costs of a wedding until now that I am planning it myself. For me it is strictly a budget constraint and not that I value them any less. You have to cut the line someone and you chose how you chose and that is that; don't feel bad about it.
Posted 12 July 2009 - 10:26 PM
It's really not about the money, it's about wanting a small, intimate wedding with only those who are closest to us. I hadn't even wanted to invite aunts and uncles but gave in to that. Not only do I not want to give in again, but the beach where we want to have the ceremony will not allow enough room to invite cousins...and if I invite one I have to invite them all.
Now I never even suggested that they were invited but they think that they are. What is the best way to inform them that I am not able to include them?
Thanks for the advice!
Posted 12 July 2009 - 11:09 PM
Posted 31 July 2009 - 04:07 AM
Posted 31 July 2009 - 01:42 PM
| Originally Posted by rickmarcie |
I'm currently in this same stage. We have decided the only way we can afford a wedding is to do a destination. Now I'm not sure how to tell our friends and family! Do you send different invitations? We plan to have 1 -2 smaller "gatherings" post wedding in our home towns-- do you just not invite people to the actual wedding? Do you invite everyone and keep your fingers crossed they don't show? How do you word all of this in an invitation? I'm getting worried about this step....
Posted 13 August 2009 - 06:22 PM
Posted 13 August 2009 - 06:45 PM
Posted 13 August 2009 - 07:12 PM
That being said, if they are still persistent about getting an answer from you, I would simply tell them that the resort/package that you've chosen has restrictions on the number of people allowed or on the number of people that can be accomodated for your ceremony/reception/dinner. That way it may seem more like the resort is the limitation and that you're not being the evil bride playing favourites.
Good luck though, and I hope your other friends are overwhelmingly understanding to make up for these friends being so demanding.
Posted 15 August 2009 - 09:09 PM
*sigh* We're really lucky. Our wedding is only the other side of the planet to be with FH's family and my parents and brother are coming over with us. Other than that, no one got an invite and I said totally openly that we're just having immediate family. Having an AHR really made life easier because we could use that as our following gambit - and heck, everyone loves a huge party!
Unfortunately, if it's getting like this, I guess you have to start questioning how much of a friend she is. A true friend would understand.
Posted 15 August 2009 - 09:23 PM
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