Lack of response from FI's family

[DarcyJAde]

Maybe I am just paranoid, I don't know. Long story short (posted on another thread). My FI's brother (best man) got engaged 2 months after us and is getting married in June (2nd marriage for him, 1st for her). We haven't heard much from him after he announced his engagement. I told Fi to check in on him and make sure everything is ok with him coming to our wedding. He got offended and said my brother will be there, don't worry. Well, we have 19 other people booked (not him and his 2 kids). BEFORE the BM got engaged he declared financial problems with the cost of him and 2 teenagers coming to the wedding. FI offered to help and we haven't heard ANYTHING else.

Then I sent out an e-mail 4 days ago asking for shoe sizes for our favors (no response). I think it's rude when you ask someone for a response and you get NOTHING. Also, we sent out our invitations 3 weeks ago, I would think the best man would just RSVP right away. nope.

What do you guys think?

p.s.

I don't really talk to him on a regular basis since he lives in another town.

[DanielleNDerek]

did you email fi's bro or his fiancee? I think guys have a tendency to ignore these kind of thing like its no big deal so maybe you should try emailing the bros' fi to see if she responds. Now if she doesnt respond I might get a little worried that they arent going but just dont want to tell yas.

[DarcyJAde]

Ya know, neither one of us has her e-mail address. They were only dating 7 months before they got engaged and I only met her twice.

[YoursTruly]

Well since email is not working how about calling them to get a more direct answer? That would be my first step and if that does not work (if they happen to notpick up and do not follow-up with a call), then its up to you to plan on them potentially not being in your wedding party OR the wedding. People tend to not respond in the timeframe we would like them to, just the nature of things, especially with weddings. But you have to protect yourinterests and you anf FI pocket first, so I would say sounds like he will not be that dependable, so plan as if he will not be there. I wish you well!

[DarcyJAde]

Thanks! I told FI he NEEDS to call him and check in. Last time we called 4 times with no response. Weird because I teally like his brother. We'll see what happens...

[stefnicole]

Keep us updated...

[DarcyJAde]

He finally e-mailed back with the shoe sizes after FI called him and left him a message and I sent ANOTHER e-mail. That's all we've heard though..