To all the mommys out there...Please help!
Posted 24 April 2009 - 05:29 PM
Posted 24 April 2009 - 05:49 PM
But, every child is sooo different. I at one point would kind of punish her for crying and put her to bed then she'd cry herself to sleep and then when she woke up she was just fine. all of this w/ her started around 6 months and now she's a VERY independent little girl and I love it! She is such a mamas girl but she really likes to play and do her own thing and I get so much more done.
Some people may think I'm a HORRIBLE mom for this, but Joe brought it up to our pediatrician and he told me that I HAD to do this or we'd have MANY issues when she hits 2. have you talked to your pediatrician about what they think to do? I will tell you that it really takes time, and maybe thats all he needs.
i would also include Caterina in cleaning, etc and still do. While I clean I give her cleaning wipes and she helps, she has her own vacuum to vacuum w/. For caterina she really needs a kid friendly environment. We always have BabyFirst TV playing, or kids music, and she's always included in every little thing from laundry to cleaning to eating w/ us, etc.
I used to put her in her highchair and eat and clean at the same time while she ate. Thats how I got my kitchen cleaned. A few times i moved her high chair to the living room and let her eat while watching Babyfirst TV to get the living room picked up.
I say talk to you pediatrician see what they say (especially since he's causing himself to get sick), and try some different methods. I have had to change up my daily schedule to get stuff done. I go to bed about a half hour after Caterina and get up early enough to get a shower dress myself, do my hair, put some makeup on and pick up the house and get some breakfast. I really struggled w/ that cause I'm a LATE LATE night person. But I feel sooooo much better when I'm all put together and the day feels much more productive! And if you don't already make one night every week, 2 weeks whatever you can do and have FI take him and you go out! Whether you go have dinner w/ yourself, the girls, the neighbor, whatever.... get some time to yourself cause you really need it!
Sorry if that was sooooo long and scattered!
Posted 24 April 2009 - 05:59 PM
Posted 24 April 2009 - 09:15 PM
Separation Anxiety Age-by-Age - Parenting.com
As for taking a shower, I know its hard, some days its hard for me to get ready in the morning, my daughter is going through this as well. Remember that this too shall pass. Do your best to make sure he knows you love him and you are there for him, but as parents we have to be good examples and take care of ourselves too.
Posted 24 April 2009 - 09:18 PM
Posted 24 April 2009 - 09:48 PM
When Caterina gets fussy I put her in the stoller and walk. Its great for me and for her. She loves to see the cars go by, trees, houses, etc. Then when we get home she is either sleeping or ready to do her own thing.
Posted 24 April 2009 - 10:56 PM
Posted 26 April 2009 - 11:43 AM
Posted 26 April 2009 - 03:33 PM
When he would start crying I would give him a hug but then just say things like "Mommy's going to work now, I'll be back later today! Bye!!!!" and I'd wave bye to him. He doesn't understand it means to go to work or what later is, but the point was that I kept my tone of voice in the same manner I usually do as opposed to frustrated or upset or whatever. And I did this for whatever I was doing. If I wanted to take a shower I did, if I needed to go into another room without him I did. I just told him what I was doing and did it. Even if he continued to cry I wouldn't change my approach until I was done.
I know it's hard to find that balance between establishing the idea that you can't cater to him 24/7 but still retain that parent/child trust of being there for your child when it's needed. It's hard but hang in there! Eventually they will learn that you are coming back. It does take some time, but it does happen!
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