Posted 20 April 2009 - 04:31 PM
Stand up for yourself. I have one coming that isn't invited but I've sucked that up because she has filled in my friend's ex husband's place so it was something I was already paying for in any event.
Posted 20 April 2009 - 08:22 PM
Posted 21 April 2009 - 09:17 AM
It's just hard to grasp that there may be people Ive went out of my way to avoid that are now going to be on a resort with me for a week...I know--I know...suck it up--get over it......just irritates the hell out of me.........lol
Posted 13 July 2009 - 02:47 PM
Anyway, I know you don't want to look like a bitch and tell people no. But it does sort of put a damper on the festivities, knowing that people that YOU personally didn't invite are there, lurking in the background. Maybe you and your FI can personally call these people who are inviting others and put on a cap on it.
Or you can use this to your advantage and flaunt your newly acquired bling around the ex-gf.......
Posted 16 July 2009 - 04:42 AM
Last week my ex asked if he could come because he is good friends with my male cousin....NOT!!! There should be some sort of rule, no exes at the wedding. I hope you are able to put a stop to the ex coming to your event. That really sucks!
Harty, LMAO that you are counting FMIL as one of the guests that you don't want to attend! I hear you girl!
Posted 24 July 2009 - 12:39 PM
My response is always the same- they are welcome to come to Jamaica and take advantage of the group rate, however, they cannot attend the ceremony or reception.
Posted 24 July 2009 - 12:46 PM
In the end its YOUR wedding day and it shouldn't be ruined by uninvited guests!!
Posted 24 July 2009 - 12:48 PM
Marie - How is your situation going? Any updates?!?
I think if I run into this, I will calmly (ha ha hopefully) inform who ever it is that invited the people, that they can come on vacation but will NOT be at the wedding festivities. That is everything wedding related, whether I'm paying for it or not. If I spent my time to organize it then they are not coming to it!
Posted 24 July 2009 - 01:51 PM
I see that this is a fairly old thread and I hope you can update us soon on how everything is going with the non invitees! I would give you the same advice as many others have here on BDW. You are totally justified in being upset/frustrated and I would make sure that unless it benefits you (like getting a free trip which is what we got if we booked enought people) I would not let the "extra" non-guests get in on your group rate! I would have that discussion with my TA right away to make sure only your invited guests get included in that...unless of course it benefits you! That would be the uninvited guests' first clue that they aren't a part of the wedding!
I would too get FI to talk to his friends to make sure they understand that the extra people they invited will not be attending your festivities. I would make sure they don't get included in any of it! Welcome dinner, rehersal, nothing! Now, knowing the type of person (they've already agreed to go to a wedding they're not invited to!) they might try to show up anyway, but I wouldn't sweat it. Just make sure they know before going that they're on their own when it comes to your wedding day. There's no way you need to put up with that!
Keep us updated!
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