Posted 16 April 2009 - 03:49 PM
Posted 16 April 2009 - 03:57 PM
I lost my mom 3 and a half years ago, and I remember feeling the same way. The first 6 months I just dove into work to keep my mind busy and off of things and then after that I really went donwhill - sad, depressed and crying ALL THE TIME!!! I turned into the worlds biggest bitch to FI (we weren't engaged at the time, and how we stayed together is a true testament to how much he loves me). I went to therapy for a little bit and it helped, but it wasn't until I found a girlfriend who had been through the same thing and had felt the same thing that I really felt better.
You are just greiving sweetheart, and it will get easier. I am dreading my wedding day without my mom, but I know I will get through that too...let me know if I can do anything for you
Posted 16 April 2009 - 04:54 PM
Posted 16 April 2009 - 05:07 PM
Posted 16 April 2009 - 06:57 PM
Hugs to you, we are here whenever you need us.
Posted 16 April 2009 - 07:06 PM
I am so sorry you even have to deal with this, unfortunately life takes us on a wild ride at times.
Just take it day by day and think and why you are getting married in two months. I am sure it's because you are deeply in love with the man of your dreams. Try to remember this is your special day and it's okay to be selfish and think about yourself. You probably feel guilty feeling all excited about your wedding, especially when your sister and mom and so gloom. Just remember your dad is going to be at your wedding looking down at you from heaven. You will be with people that love and respect you and your future husband. This will be the best day of your life!
Posted 16 April 2009 - 09:22 PM
What always helps me is to vent away on here (sometimes I even seem to end up talking to myself, but it helps all the same ). At 3 months I had a huge breakdown, and have been having some mini ones recently. Lists help a lot. I know it seems obvious, but they do.
have you thought about counseling to deal with this grief and loss you are experiencing? My Mom passed away when I was 17 so it's been a long time, but now that the wedding is coming up some of those feelings are also resurfacing. We go to counseling together about every other week and it just helps to TALK it out! (who woulda thought paying someone to just sit there and listen would be SO beneficial?! lol).
Big hugs to you... this can't be easy, and not gonna pretend like I know exactly what you're going through. But hang in there and make sure to reach out for support when you need it (even if it's just online through this forum).
~ Jaime & Martin ~
"Rain or Swine! 2-0-0-9"
We had 24 people attend our wedding in Las Caletas, Mexico on May 24th, 2009!
We all stayed at The Marriott in P.V., and Honeymooned at The Royal Plantation in Ochos Rios, Jamaica!
Posted 16 April 2009 - 11:50 PM
Posted 17 April 2009 - 12:13 AM
I was having huge meltdowns, but I went to counseling and...... Wow! It has helped tremendously.
I was engaged for six months before I could muster enough strength to start planning. I feel much better now and I can actually make it through weeks at a time without having a melt down.
So there's hope. I'm a huge fan of counseling!
Group hug from your best destination wedding family.
Posted 17 April 2009 - 12:29 AM
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