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Am I crazy?/What would you do?

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#21 starchild



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    Posted 16 April 2009 - 05:43 PM

    Originally Posted by Yari
    My first thought was no way, but then the more I thought about it I really wouldn't mind.

    The day of my wedding I was off with my bridesmaids, enjoying spa treatments and didn't have any contact with my FI. I was so wrapped up in me, that I didn't really worry about him (which is odd for me cause I am a worrier). LOL.
    I had the same thoughts! Yari and I married at the same place so I also was out on the wedding day at 8am and didn't talk to him or see him until the ceremony around 6pm. We had to depend on them getting on a boat to the ceremony and I didn't worry either, I was relaxing myself. If that is what he needs to unwind/prep let him, so long as you know he is responsible enough to not get wasted and mess things up, you will both be fine :)

    #22 Erika J

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      Posted 16 April 2009 - 05:45 PM

      Originally Posted by Rhonda
      But, now, I'm sure I'll worry that something might go wrong (I'm a worrier)....they'll be fishing on a boat--little risky on the wedding day (IMO). I think it would ease my mind if he went a different day or just did something like snorkeling at the resort.
      My FI wanted myself and our friends to go SKYDIVING.... BEFORE the wedding. I was like NO! Golf is one thing the morning of wedding day, but skydiving the day before, i was like no way.

      Anyhow FI got all pissy that I was being overly worried. I felt like it was totally a normal reaction. I did not say I wouldnt go just that I wanted it to be after the wedding.

      Boys are so unreasonable sometimes.

      #23 Jacilynda

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        Posted 16 April 2009 - 05:47 PM

        Originally Posted by Sammygurlj
        You are not crazy, tell him to do it the day before or the day after if he has to but not the day of. I'm sure there will be plenty of things that need to be taken care of on your wedding day and you should not be left to worry about that alone while he is off fishing. Yes you are there for a vacation but the wedding day is not a vacation day, it is your wedding day and if it is not wedding related it can be done on a different day.
        hire a WC to get you through the day. IMHO no bride should be doing everything, I know we want to, but when it comes down to it we can't! A WC is going to help you through everything. The groom doesn't want to be setting anything up on that day! He doesn't want to really help throughout everything, why would he the day of?!

        I'll say it again, let the boys be boys. You don't want to start your marriage off w/ you bossing him around and him miserable throughout the wedding day cause he couldn't go do his own thing. he's a grown man let him go!

        Hun, don't worry about him getting hurt, etc. The chances of all of that are the same if they went and did most other things, especially if he has a guide. i wouldn't necessarily let them rent a boat and go out on their own. But let him enjoy his day too. Ha I'm a VERY bossy person! Seriously.

        #24 Chiquita

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          Posted 16 April 2009 - 06:30 PM

          I'm with Alyssa on this.. I don't think it's a big deal he goes fishing. My FI went surfing with ALL our male guests the morning of our wedding day. I was off getting manis/pedis with the girls and getting our hair done etc. I say let him spend it the way he wants.. it's his wedding day too :)

          #25 Soon To Be Mrs. Gomez

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            Posted 16 April 2009 - 07:24 PM

            I didn't allow my FI to that. He needs to be ready all day the day of the wedding not out fishing.

            #26 Ayita

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              Posted 16 April 2009 - 07:37 PM

              DH wanted to go diving. I said for the day before - if he's not there for HIS friends it's HIS problem not mine - but the day of the wedding, it's a NO-NO. I booked him for a mani-pedi in the morning with me at 10am haha ! He's stuck ! try that !

              #27 Mrs.Captain

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                Posted 16 April 2009 - 10:12 PM

                All the men went on a guided fishing trip the morning of our wedding. It kept them busy while the girls were getting ready. I think they did a 4 hours charter from 8am - Noon. Our wedding was at 4pm, so it was perfect. It kept him busy while I got ready, etc. He originally wanted to go scuba diving that morning and I did put my foot down on that one. I worry more about safety with diving than fishing, but that's just me. It helped that his best man was having ear problems from their dive earlier in the week and told him I didn't want him going through that on the wedding day, so fishing it was!
                Jennifer & David
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                #28 MarieSam

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                  Posted 16 April 2009 - 10:12 PM

                  I dont think me telling FI he CANT do something would go over real well, lol, and vice versa. But I would certainly express my concerns and voice my opinion. I can see why you would worry if he's there on time, etc., etc., but I think if you just make it clear what time he needs to be ready to go that should be good enough. Like the other gals have said, it is his wedding day too and might do him some good to unwind and enjoy being out with his buddies before the big event

                  #29 Susanandmo

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                    Posted 16 April 2009 - 10:24 PM

                    I agree with you... Probably not the day of the wedding. I would be ok with them going to day before and if they extend the invitation to other guest as well, making it part of the wedding weekend activities.

                    My FI and all the boys and some of the girls are doing golf the morning of the wedding and later renting ATVs and going out exploring... The scary part for me, is that my FI is really into extreme sport, so I'm just hoping that he doesn't do anything STUPID!!!

                    #30 Alyssa

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                      Posted 16 April 2009 - 10:27 PM

                      Originally Posted by Soon To Be Mrs. Gomez
                      I didn't allow my FI to that. He needs to be ready all day the day of the wedding not out fishing.
                      soon to be mrs. gomez ready for what? her wedding is at dinnertime! what is he supposed to do all day? shouldn't he have fun too? :)

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