Hostess gifts?

[JaimeLynne]

So, what is the proper etiquette on this?

 

My MOH is throwing me a bridal shower coming up the weekend after next. I have already paid for her room deposit ($100), 1 night stay, and I'll be getting her handmade foot jewelry + a 30 minute massage the day of the wedding. I also have these little necklaces that are for bridesmaids - they are in a cute little package and have a little heart tied on a string. When the string breaks or the heart falls off, you make a wish.

 

Do I need to give her a separate gift for throwing this shower? She is hosting it but I don't think it will set her back too far because I am providing the wine myself (slight eye roll there) - well, actually my Dad was nice enough to step in and provide that. I know she is on a tight budget though so I understand, but it's been a challenge working with her on this (she hasn't kept me in the loop too much and is just now sending out invites).

 

Ok I went off topic (guess i needed to vent a little - hah!). If I do give her a gift, do you think the little necklace is appropriate? (Only cost about 8 bucks) Should I throw in a bottle of wine around $10?

 

What do you think?

 

Also - I have an "in-town BM" who is throwing my lingerie/bachelorette party the following weekend. What should I get her since she is not going to the wedding? I'm thinking I should probably get her something since she's not getting gifts like the other girls who are going... maybe the same thing - one of those little necklaces + a bottle of vino?

 

My Aunt is helping host the bridal shower (it will be at her place), and my Grandma is also throwing me a little bridal luncheon with several of her friends, FMIL, my sister and my aunt. I am thinking for them nice, handwritten thank you cards would be appropriate...

 

 

[Kristy!]

I would just do thank you notes for everyone. I'm not buying gifts for everyone involved in throwing my shower.

[JaimeLynne]

Bump.

 

Any more feedback?

[beachbride08]

My aunt and cousin threw my shower. I got them each a $50 gift certificate for a pedicure at Nordstrom Spa because I know they both like to go there. I handed out my bridal party gifts at my shower as well. They helped set up the shower, but didn't contribute financially. Everyone got thank yous after the shower. I think a small gift of appreciation would be a nice gesture, but I don't think it has to be expensive. The necklace and wine would be a nice gift.

[tylersgirl]

My friends are throwing my shower and I got them all bags with spa wraps, flip flops, mugs filled with cookies, and luggage tags, etc. I am just sending my family members who are helping a thank you note. I think just a little something would be nice. It already sounds like you are doing a lot for MOH for the wedding. Hope that helped!

[JaimeLynne]

K - thanks for the feedback. Also, when do you give them the gifts?

[~Debra~]

I was the MOH in my friend's wedding and I got a nice hard written note and I will be doing the same for my girls when they throw my shower. I'm going to write them each a nice note saying how much I appreciate and love them. That's it.

[tylersgirl]

You're welcome! I am planning on giving them the gifts before the guests arrive at the shower

[drtracy]

My shower was this past weekend and I gave my hostesses (my mom, sister, FMIL & FSMIL) tank tops that I made for them to wear in Cancun. I also gave my BMs their tank tops as they helped with the day and they planned my bachelorette.