I need to move.....but!
Posted 15 April 2009 - 02:10 AM
Posted 15 April 2009 - 02:19 AM
Posted 15 April 2009 - 02:33 AM
Definitely have a packing party w/ the girls! Drinks and all! Also I don't know if your FI would be comfortable w/ this, but talk to him about maybe changing around things in his house to accomodate you a bit more. Such as rearranging rooms, redecorating, even painting. Something that will make it feel more like yours! Even doing something like this together is really great for your relationship and will help you ease into being together if you redesign the house to accomodate both of you! You're definitely going to feel like you have less space so make a time each week that you and the girls have drinks or dinner. Something to get you out of the "crammed" house and enjoy yourself.
it may seem cheesy, but the more you 2 do together around the house the better you are going to feel, such as making breakfast, lunch, dinner together and sitting down and eating. Working in the yard together, redecorating, etc etc. This is a pivotal moment in a relationship and how you two start it off and merge will ultimately really determine where you go.
If you haven't already, sit down and talk to FI about how you guys can make this work for both of you. Maybe explain what really makes you feel comfortable at your home. If its cleanliness then definitely discuss it and what you consider clean. Give him the opportunity to do the same, then COMPROMISE!
This is going to be a move you would eventually make, and even though its not the timing you really wanted, make the best of it. See the upsides. Its much easier to see things on paper. Write out all pros and cons then discuss them w/ FI. Some things you may think are a con he may make you realize are a pro of moving in w/ him.
We are all here to help you through whatever you need! it's a HUGE change but definitely worth it
Posted 15 April 2009 - 12:27 PM
My point is- yes, it will probably be difficult in the beginning because your everyday routine will be changed and you will not have much privacy anymore, but you adjust and will get use to it. After a while, you will look back at it and laugh at the stupid fights you might have had when you first moved in together. Good luck and keep us posted on how the household merge goes!
Posted 15 April 2009 - 07:49 PM
Posted 15 April 2009 - 10:02 PM
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