| Originally Posted by teshy1 |
We did the legal stuff in Alberta one month before our Mexico wedding. We didn't keep it a secret from the wedding guests, and they all completely understood our reasoning for doing the legal paperwork in Canada. We did say vows and do the kiss and all that at the legal ceremony, and we had as our marriage officiant a former city councillor that my hubby's parents knew, so it was kind of nice.
The way I see it, a "symbolic" ceremony is just that -- a symbol of your love for and commitment to each other. That was our wedding day, for sure -- the day we stood up in front of our family and friends and pledged our lives to each other. If we hadn't considered it our "real" wedding, than why would we have put so much effort and thought into planning it?
There will always be people that complain, no matter what you decide. I'm so glad we decided to do the legal paperwork in Canada. It really reduced the stress and hassle, and it in no way took away from our special day in Mexico.
I agree with everything you said but so far we have decided to not tell the guest and keep it personal cause I don't want to be upset by any comments anyone has on the issue. Our real wedding is the mexico wedding the other stuff is just legal but not everyone sees it that way.
Not sure if the big tax return would apply to canadians getting married in the previous year but i would do it if it did lol cause we could use all the help we can get!!!