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Post wedding blues - anyone?

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#1 prairiegirl

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    Posted 08 April 2009 - 11:38 AM

    ok.. I feel like an idiot. I am super sad, and depressed...

    Got married couple months ago, had the big AHR on March 7th, everything was AWSOME!! and now... I just don't want to leave the house... I want to stay in bed and eat everything in the fridge (and no I'm not pregant)

    what gives? I didn't have any big marraige expectations, I knew everything would be the same as it was before. My guy is awsome, we have fun, but I just feel like crying for no reason...

    I think I am gonna go get my hormones checked out, but has anyone experienced this?? I know the last 6 months of planning and all the excitement is now gone and I am sitting here twiddleing my thumbs.. but how do I get past this... I guess I just want to know if I am the only person feeling like crap... (which is why I am on here.. reliving my wedding..)

    #2 Sammygurlj

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      Posted 08 April 2009 - 12:21 PM

      I think it is probably just in all the planning leading up to the wedding you had something to look forward to and now that it is over you feel kind of lost. Try to find something else that you can look forward to, set a new goal or think about something you want to do in the near future that you can work towards.

      #3 Destination Scout

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        Posted 08 April 2009 - 03:04 PM

        I totally feel your pain. I also had an amazing wedding, and didn't expect anything to change post wedding - and it hasn't. I wondered how I managed to plan a wedding and do my job, and now I realize it's because I haven't been challenged by my job for quite a while. I spoke to my boss and am getting ready to pick up a few extra projects. I'm also working on a few new projects at home.
        I tend to get joy out of looking forward to something instead of enjoying where I am. This is something I've always needed to work on and it's hard since I've been a single mom for so long - life can be very non-pleasant at times.
        So a) I need to find a new hobby, B) I need to enjoy where I'm at. Step one is probably the easier one.
        Let me know how you're doing.

        #4 Jeremy Herman PhotoVideo

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          Posted 08 April 2009 - 03:08 PM

          Hey Prairie girl!
          My wife and I went threw a similar stte after all the planning, the excitment, friends and family...
          Maybe it's time for your family to grow....
          Hope you will feel better!

          #5 Soon To Be Mrs. Gomez

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            Posted 08 April 2009 - 03:12 PM

            Aww! Don't be sad. My friend went through this and it lasted a while, but I think it was because of the money spent. I think it will take some time. Maybe you and your hubby should take a small trip somehwere and do romatic stuff. That always makes me feel better.

            #6 prairiegirl

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              Posted 08 April 2009 - 04:47 PM

              You are sooo right. My job is very boring.. my boss is very all over the place when asking for stuff.. gives really bad direction and leaves everything to the last minnute.. but I can't really complain cause I get paid really good money.

              Recently... inbetween the wedding and ARH I was sent on a last minute business trip with a co-worker (male about 55, I am 35). (which really put me in a bind for getting things done for my ARH)... anyways... He treated me like a secretary (we are complete equals) and THEN when we stopped for lunch, I said, "we should ask for separate check cause otherwise they will just assume we are together." and he said.. "would that be so bad?" AHHHHHHHHHHH I was only married for two weeks!!! from that moment on I can not stand the sight of him.. and now there have been some changes at work and now my boss has promoted the him to 2nd in command, and he is an idiot - no political savy just a YES man..

              And he is into this fitness thing (right after I started going to the gym to get ready for my wedding).. so every noonhour he 'works out'... and comes back all stinky... I thought it was him not showering... (so I told him to shower.. lol) and he said he was... so I told him to drink more water... he has old man stinky smell... and it is KILLING ME!!!!

              I have applied for a couple new jobs, cause I am sick of these people... I just don't know if I can find something for the same $$ as I am the main breadwinner in the family...

              #7 aimee!

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                Posted 08 April 2009 - 11:19 PM

                aww. i'm sorry about your blues. but i know that you are not the only one! there actually is another thread about this floating around the forum somewhere...

                but i have an idea for you.. how about a new mindless hobby? lol, i am addicted to a few TV shows that i can share with you. or a fun book series?

                otherwise a hobby that involves thinking is okay too... i'm not sure i could help you too much with that, because by the time i get home from work i'm sick of thinking. :)

                chin up lady-- you've got a forum full of support behind you. <3
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                #8 Destination Scout

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                  Posted 21 April 2009 - 09:48 AM

                  Hey Prarie Girl - I just wanted to check in and see how you were doing. Your co-worker sounds like a jerk. Have you figured out how to get around him yet? How is the job search going?

                  #9 prairiegirl

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                    Posted 23 April 2009 - 05:52 PM

                    Originally Posted by Malisa
                    Hey Prarie Girl - I just wanted to check in and see how you were doing. Your co-worker sounds like a jerk. Have you figured out how to get around him yet? How is the job search going?
                    Malisa, you are a sweetie!!

                    things are good.. I am much better than I was... I have adopted the 'suck it up' and 'get over it' policies... (kinda working...) I don't even deal with my co-worker, he comes into my office and all he gets is 'yes' 'no' answers...

                    Am waiting hoping to get an interview from a position I applied for.. but know it may no happen so I have to figure out alternatives or how to deal...

                    I think I just want out of my job and find something where I am useful, cause for 2 1/2 years at this job I have been going in circles cause upper mangement can't make and/or stand by a decision..

                    so at least I know the problem.. and can focus on changing what I can and accepting those things I can not change...

                    #10 kevsgirl

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                      Posted 23 April 2009 - 10:21 PM

                      Good luck with your applications!
                      I'm in the same situation - really tired of my job, really obnoxious coworkers who are above me and condescending... ugh!

                      I also wanted to say that I totally went through a post-wedding meltdown. Just felt totally pathetic and down. I was in overdrive for months - I think that's why.
                      At any rate, we decided to try for a baby and then that kind of took over. It was a great project as it turns out So I second the thought of taking up a new hobby. Even if not ttc :)

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