Family issues and eloping
Posted 07 April 2009 - 12:42 PM
FI and I want to do an elopement/honeymoon. Basically just go away and get married, then come home and have a nice reception with friends & family. The one thing that is a complication are my parents.
I do want my dad to be there at our wedding because it would mean the world to me. He basically said he would go wherever we were. FI is ok with this. The thing is, I don't have a good relationship with my mom. She has not been supportive of my relationship since day one, and is basically just not good for me. But, she and my dad are still married. I cannot justify "inviting" my dad and not inviting her, though I really don't want her there. The only way I can see getting around this is just to elope with my FI, with dad not there, but that would break my heart.
Any tips? A second thought I had was to do a small ceremony at home either before or after our trip to have my dad there...but I don't want it to seem hokey.
Posted 07 April 2009 - 02:05 PM
I wouldn't change your plans just for her. Do what you want with the people you want there and don't worry about everyone else. If she doesn't support the relationship there is no reason she should be there, isn't that the main reason you go to a wedding? To support the couple in their life together?
Posted 07 April 2009 - 11:22 PM
Posted 08 April 2009 - 07:02 AM
I guess the real question is would it break your heart just the same if she came along as if you were unable to have Dad there with you? Is her presence something you can grin and bear?
Posted 08 April 2009 - 08:30 AM
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