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Okay so I had my Bridal shower this past weekend and loved it! All guests were so happy and gave me lovely gifts, but I noticed both my FMIL and my FSIL didn't bring anything. I'm not a gift greedy person, but they didn't even say anything. MY FMIL did say after that she was going to see what everyone else gave so she could pick a gift that I didn't get, but then I found out later that she had gone out the day before and bought a bunch of dresses for the wedding because she is trying to figure out which one she wants to wear for the wedding. My FSIL went out partying later that evening and is planning a trip to Vegas with her friends next weekend so I'm assumming she is trying to save money for that trip. I tried to not let it bother me, but I'm feeling really hurt right now. EVERYONE ELSE at the shower gave a gift except them. I don't even think they felt embarrassed. I don't what to think. I haven't mentioned to FI, but should I?

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Okay so I had my Bridal shower this past weekend and loved it! All guests were so happy and gave me lovely gifts, but I noticed both my FMIL and my FSIL didn't bring anything. I'm not a gift greedy person, but they didn't even say anything. MY FMIL did say after that she was going to see what everyone else gave so she could pick a gift that I didn't get, but then I found out later that she had gone out the day before and bought a bunch of dresses for the wedding because she is trying to figure out which one she wants to wear for the wedding. My FSIL went out partying later that evening and is planning a trip to Vegas with her friends next weekend so I'm assumming she is trying to save money for that trip. I tried to not let it bother me, but I'm feeling really hurt right now. EVERYONE ELSE at the shower gave a gift except them. I don't even think they felt embarrassed. I don't what to think. I haven't mentioned to FI, but should I?
I'd probably be upset too. I'm not about gifts either but it's really the thought that counts. I think at least a card would have been appropriate. Are they helping financially with the wedding at all? Maybe they thought with everything else that it wasn't necessary. Sometimes people have engagement parties, and bridal showers, and then the wedding and the number of times you have to give them a gift gets out of control. HOWEVER, I don't really think its acceptable to go to something like that with nothing at all and then to make up excuses as to why. If it was me, I'd have no problem talking to my fiance about it..
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The shower was actually hosted by my Mom, my aunts and my sister so in-laws really have no excuse. I'm trying not to let it get me down, but I'm seeing them in a different light now. They say they are so happy about the wedding, but they really don't inquire alot and all they keep saying is how they are so waiting for a vacation. Maybe they just don't how to express themselves or maybe they are thinking of giving a monetary gift closer to the wedding date, but I really doubt it.

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I understand where you are coming from, but dont stress yourself. People are going to do what they want and there is nothing you can do about it. They are who they are. Don't stress over the things you cant change! Easier said than done, but I'm sorry you are getting negative vibes from your Future Inlaws this close to the wedding. Hope for the Best!

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I think people use all kinds of wierdo excuses when in comes to a DW.

 

Like oh I have to pay blah to get down to blah and that is all I can do , so no presents.

 

But I will come and drink your free booze and free food at your e party, shower bach party, etc.

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i would tell FI. I tell joe everything, he's the only person in the world I can vent about his parents w/ and it not get back to them. He either gives me another perspective or the situation or he talks in private w/ his parents about the situation.

 

I would tell him, it will make you feel better just to vent a little.

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