Posted 07 September 2010 - 06:10 PM
Our guys have no idea how much we think about the wedding day, it just hurts their brains. Aside from the things that I absolutely have to run by him, I really don't tell him much. What's the point, he'll just zone out when I start running through all the things that I'm doing, and all the things that need to get done.
This may sound totally crazy but I've turned the planning into a game for myself; I just make things and do things and if he doesn't ask me what I'm doing, I feel like it's yet another "surprise" that he doesn't know about, and that's fine by me.
He has seen some of the things that I have been working on, but he has no idea how it will all come together. So I feel like the day of the wedding will be one big surprise for him, and that's going to make me feel good. I'd much rather play this game with myself than get angry with him when he zones out on me, much better for the relationship this way, lol.
What I have been doing is when I need him for something, I tell him how long it's going to take, than I tell him a time I'd like to do it. I also keep it to a maximum of two things. I have found that this works great, he knows how much time he is dedicating so he doesn't suddenly feel cornered. Saturday he sat down with me, we chose the menu, and finished our vows, than he went back to playing video games which was fine by me because he helped me finish the 2 things I really needed him for that day.
Hermosahoops, don't get stressed out with your FI, just remember that he with never be as nuts about the wedding as you are, so just involve him when you absolutely need him, it will be better for both of you that way.