My TTD during someone else's wedding week??

[BachataBride]

Here is a bit of background. As most of you probably know I am not happy with my pictures. Even now, 2 months later when I see other people's amazing pictures breaks my heart - I still cry over it even. I know, I'm probably acting like spoiled brat, I definitely feel like it sometimes, but I want (and think I deserve!) amazing wedding pictures!! So, DH has agreed to bring our wedding clothes on our next vacation so we can have a wedding picture do-over! I know that I'm still not going to get beautiful ceremony or guest pictures, but at least we'll have a nice one of the two of us alone (looking in the same direction!) to display in our house. (I'm also planning on doing a TTD - DH just doesn't know yet!)

 

Well, it turns out that his BM is attending one of his friends' wedding in February next year in Riviera Maya. We said that our next trip was going to be the RM, so they invited us to go! It would be a great trip & DH would get to spend some time with his BM since they live in different provinces.

Anyway...my question is...do you think it is in poor taste as a guest to plan a TTD during another brides wedding week?? We would not have any of their guests involved...it would be just DH and I. What are your thoughts??!

 

Oh...and because I know a lot of brides have complained (rightfully so!) about uninvited guests I got the brides email addy from DH's BM & told her not to feel pressured to invite us to the wedding! I wanted her to know we were going for the vacation...not to crash her wedding!! I also pointed her in the direction of BDW and Kathy since she is getting married at Iberostar Paraiso Beach!

[tylersgirl]

Amanda-I think that it sounds fine as long as it is just you and DH and y'all make it really private. Make sure not to tell anyone in their wedding group and just try to go somewhere private to take the pictures where the bride and groom and their guests won't see y'all. Good luck with the pics!!! I am sure they will be beautiful.

[Jen_S]

I think that as long as you do not take away from the wedding events it is fine. No one even has to know that you are doing it if you do not want them to. A lot of our guests did what they wanted to do during the day. I think it is great you will get wedding pictures you like. If you want to do TTD in a cenote I recommend Hidden Worlds they were awesome.

[Betsy]

Just my 2 cents, but if you decide to do this, I think you should maybe keep it to yourselves, like don't broadcast that you are getting this done. I think it would be fine as long as it doesn't interfere with any other stuff that the bride is doing. And you are exactly right, you DO deserve beautiful wedding pics!! I hope it works out better this time!!!!

[~Stephanie~]

Amanda, First off- DO NOT feel spoiled regarding your pictures! I have read previously about how upset you are regarding not having pro pics. I felt so terrible for you, it is in my opinion the most important aspect of my wedding! I would be completely crushed and it would probably be something I wouldn't get over either. You are completely justified! Second, you did the right thing by emailing the bride. Obviously she should tell you that it isn't a problem but it is her wedding and by letting her know you can worry less and she knows that you care about her feelings. I do not think that having your pics done during their wedding trip is bad at all, there will be so many people there and so many other weddings. I am sure the bride will understand your situation.

 

I am so excited for you! Now, who are you going to hire to do your pictures?!

[**TIFFANY**]

Usually with TTD you would go off site of the resort so I don't think it's a big deal at all. People probably wouldn't even know what you were doing or know anything about it. You can get your hair and makeup done if you want and talk to the photographer about a great location away from the resort. You can take the nice shots first and then move on to the TTD shots. Nobody would even know you were doing this unless you told them about it.

[BachataBride]

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Originally Posted by Steph158 Amanda, First off- DO NOT feel like a spoiled brat regarding your pictures! I have read some posts previously about how upset you are regarding not having pro pics. I felt so terrible for you, it is in my opinion the most important aspect of my wedding! I would be completely crushed and it would probably be something I wouldn't get over either. You are completely justified! Second, you did the right thing by emailing the bride. Obviously she should tell you that it isn't a problem but it is her wedding and by letting her know you can worry less and she knows that you are care about her feelings. I do not think that having your pics done during their wedding trip is bad at all, there will be so many people there and so many other weddings. I am sure the bride will understand your situation. I am so excited for you! Now, who are you going to hire to do your pictures!

Thank you ladies!!

And thank you so much Steph for your kind words! It actually made me teary eyed (surprise, surprise!!)! I actually didn't email her about our planned TTD, just the invite to the wedding thing, but I will definitely let her know my plans. She seems really easy going - even told me we were invited to the wedding! She just wants a vacation, with a wedding somewhere in the middle of it!

I have been thinking about who I am going to hire. We still aren't going to have a huge amount of money for this, but I'm not hiring a crappy photographer just because the price is right! I'm definitely going to be more fllexible!! I am planning on checking with some RM brides here to see who they are using, or if they want to share someone who they are flying in (that will be my next new thread!!). I'm also going to check with the bride to see if she is bringing in a photographer.

I'm very excited!! Although, in some ways it seems really strange to have "wedding" photos done a year later. Maybe I might even just buy a simple white dress & call it an anniv. TTD shoot (instead of a wedding one!)

[BachataBride]

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Originally Posted by jkcz0702 I think that as long as you do not take away from the wedding events it is fine. No one even has to know that you are doing it if you do not want them to. A lot of our guests did what they wanted to do during the day. I think it is great you will get wedding pictures you like. If you want to do TTD in a cenote I recommend Hidden Worlds they were awesome.

I was thinking about a cenote! I might be in touch for more info!! Stay tuned!!

[Sammygurlj]

I think it would be fine. Just tell everyone you are going away for the day and do what you want. As long as it is not on the wedding day and nobody knows about it, what's it going to hurt. The wedding day is there day but the rest of the trip is yours.

[H&F]

I think it fine to re-do the photos. Just keep it a secret! That may actually make it more fun for the two of you since it will be "your own little secret"! Good luck and I hope you get the photos of your dreams!