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IMHO I'm probably not about to send thank you cards to the guests that came because I think only 20% weren't a complete pain in my ass more than once during our engagement (it was only a year long!). So, yes, I'm a little bitter but I also have sent or called thank yous since I could read and write. I always do it but we paid for meals Friday night, provided everything Saturday (people have no idea just how much money we spent trying to provide for their comfort and happiness), and gave OOT bags, pre-travel brochures, luggage tags, etc. We put A LOT of time into making things for them (a complete welcome book) to make sure they felt welcome and informed.


We had NO guests give us gifts for our wedding. Even at our AHR I think only 2 guests gave us a gift. I honestly didn't expect any gifts because of the grumbling that was going on before our wedding so the only reason I'm thinking about it now is because of this thread.


I do have one additional question: we had our AHR and there were a majority of people that didn't give so much as a card, they just ate the food and drank the beverages. We didn't pay for it, my in laws did but do we still have to write thank yous for people that came? We didn't know a lot of the people there (they were there for DH's parents) so how would even go about writing thanks to that?

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I don't think I've ever heard of sending thank you cards to everyone that attended a wedding.


It's not considered a rule, but I got a thank you card for being a BM once. It arrived a week or two after the wedding & meant a lot to me. I saved it.


I can't remember if I sent our guests thank you cards. I know I sent thank yous for all gifts and cards right away. I think I did a thank you email to all the guests when we returned from mexico with a link to see some pictures.


There was also a thank you letter in the OOT bags we gave them when they arrived. I think that does the trick of saying "thanks for coming."

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yeah, it looks like the 1 year thing isn't true. Not sure who started that rumor anyway. I had always heard 6 months. If i know the couple had a bunch of big life changes right after the wedding, like a big move or a new job, I usually don't care if the thank you takes a while.


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Emily post says you have 3-4 months, but ideally you write it the same day. I did my thank yous weekly. I'd just sit down every sunday & write cards for the gifts we got that week.


I'm a firm beliver that if you make the time to register for things you can make the time to send thank yous. With all the time so many of us spend planning the little details of a wedding, we can find time to write thank you cards. it's not fun, but I think it's so important.

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