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#1 SgtPepperette

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    Posted 13 March 2009 - 02:38 PM

    So we are starting to get back our tentative RSVP postcards we sent out with our STD's.

    No the people that RSVP'd no, should they get a formal invite? I would think no...and dont want to bombard them with unnecessary invites....

    #2 meli122

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      Posted 13 March 2009 - 02:48 PM

      That's a tough one. I think they should get an invite as a nice gesture or if something changes and they can make it.

      But I just asked my FI and he said no.

      #3 SgtPepperette

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        Posted 13 March 2009 - 02:54 PM

        My FI said no as well. Thats why I asked the wise ones

        Im glad I sent those RSVP cards with the STD, Im realizing I was estimating people that arent coming!

        #4 endlesslove

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          Posted 13 March 2009 - 06:07 PM

          I don't plan on it. My invites are going to cost me a lot, and I don't want to send them to someone who is just going to toss it aside. I don't think they would expect to get an invite if they already said no, but then other people would say "what if they change their mind?" This is why I put an unsure option on our RSVP's for our STD's.

          #5 Jess

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            Posted 13 March 2009 - 06:29 PM

            yes - etiquette says you should said out an invitation even if people tell you know from an STD

            plus they could change their mind

            #6 DanielleNDerek

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              Posted 13 March 2009 - 06:41 PM

              I sent them out to everyone. We did have 1 other person book after we sent out invites. I think with a DW you can more do what you want and not follow proper etiquette. So in otherwords do whatever you feel comfortable with.
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              #7 Bridget810

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                Posted 14 March 2009 - 02:57 AM

                This is my opinion:

                If you've already purchased more than enough invites: send the invites to people you know aren't coming any how.

                If you expect/want a gift from this person: send the invite to them (I know this sounds greedy and horrible, my apologies, but an invite is a gentle reminder of a gift sometimes)

                If you know they aren't coming, you haven't already ordered invites and they probably won't send you a gift, don't bother.

                Okay, I know my rules probably don't follow traditional etiquette; sorry!

                #8 scottgm2

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                  Posted 15 March 2009 - 03:52 PM

                  Even though people may not be able to make it that like the invite as a memorable to keep

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