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Where is that checklist? Do you think you could help me find it? I've looked up checklists online but they don't seem to be of any help - I feel so behind on everything, and so alone in it all! I hate feeling like I can't bother anyone to ask for help. UGH - character flaw.
Jaime Lynne, there`s a checklist on the PV thread, I think it`s a sticky. Maybe get a hold of your WC and see if she can forward you a list of to-dos.

You`ll be fine girl! It`ll all fall in place. Grab the to do list, and then break it down and give FI some tasks. It`ll make you feel better to do something "wedding oriented" together. Take a deep breath... fill up that wine glass, and enjoy your night. :)

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Thank you!!! I think I just need to vent to some ppl who know what I'm going through, KWIM!? I haven't been on here in forever and I miss you girls!!

Where is that checklist? Do you think you could help me find it? I've looked up checklists online but they don't seem to be of any help - I feel so behind on everything, and so alone in it all! I hate feeling like I can't bother anyone to ask for help. UGH - character flaw.
here's the checklist thread http://bestdestinationwedding.com/forum/t20049
let me know if you need help with anything or if you need to vent i'm here. Your not alone at all so dont feel alone. You got us girls for support.

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I'm getting married the same weekend as you - I feel like nothing is set up yet for our wedding... We don't have a band, our menus not set, the times aren't really even set (except in my head). We don't have suits picked out for my FI or his men. some people in our wedding party haven't booked yet..

our wedding planner just keeps telling me we have time, but I am stressed too and wish everything was booked/decided!!

So, you're not alone!!! I'm freaking out too!!!

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smile03.gif Sharin' some love!

 

Just breathe and pace yourself. I agree, too, about the checklist. It'll allow you to take one bite at a time. How many events in your life are going to take this much planning and energy? Just enjoy it while it lasts. Everything that is supposed to fall into place, will, and some of the small things won't really even matter on the big day. That to-do list will shrink each week. And in the end, you will be married to your prince charming :)

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You are doing all the right things! Especially the wine :)! EVERYTHING will work out - I personally promise you that! I also remember freaking out and it is completely normal to feel that way! All of a sudden you just realize that you are REALLY getting married! YAY!!! Wine always puts things in perspective for me so a few more glasses and I'm sure you will feel better! And you have all of us here to help you along the way!

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Thanks everyone!!!!!

 

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Awww Jaime, you'll be fine! If this is the first wedding related "freakout" that you've had, with 3 months to go, I'd say you were good!

I probably had more than a few breakdowns during my planning and can recall many outbursts of crying.

And no, DH didn't understand exactly why I was crying & really didn't know what he was supposed to do! He did listen & knew that it was all wedding stress so that did help. But like you, I felt funny going to him about it.

 

Anyway, don't worry. Like you said, you've had alot going on lately & you should just chalk this is up to normal, wedding stress, that unfortunately, brides get the pleasure of experiencing!!!

 

Danielle's suggestion was great regarding making a list of things to do so you know exactly where you're at. Everything will fall into place soon enough.

 

Finish your wine, cheers.gifget all the crying out & start fresh tomorrow!smile03.gif

Thank you so much for your thoughtful response :) It feels much better knowing I'm not the only one going through this - thank God for this message board huh! (Thanks Tammy!!!)

 

I think that's a great idea to get all my crying out tonight and start anew tomorrow.

 

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Jaime Lynne, there`s a checklist on the PV thread, I think it`s a sticky. Maybe get a hold of your WC and see if she can forward you a list of to-dos.

 

You`ll be fine girl! It`ll all fall in place. Grab the to do list, and then break it down and give FI some tasks. It`ll make you feel better to do something "wedding oriented" together. Take a deep breath... fill up that wine glass, and enjoy your night. :)

Hey Ashley - I did think of doing that, and I'll contact her soon but I already contacted her once today. I feel bad being a "needy" bride. I really really realllly wanna be as stress-free as possible!

 

yes, I will (re-)fill my glass of wine and just hang on here tonight. Taking deep breaths as I type.

 

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here's the checklist thread http://bestdestinationwedding.com/forum/t20049

let me know if you need help with anything or if you need to vent i'm here. Your not alone at all so dont feel alone. You got us girls for support.

Thanks!

 

*As I was typing this my MOH called me and we talked and I feel a little better - she gave me 3 things to focus on for the week and also took a couple things off my plate which is a BIG relief!*

 

Thanks again ladies!

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I'm getting married the same weekend as you - I feel like nothing is set up yet for our wedding... We don't have a band, our menus not set, the times aren't really even set (except in my head). We don't have suits picked out for my FI or his men. some people in our wedding party haven't booked yet..
our wedding planner just keeps telling me we have time, but I am stressed too and wish everything was booked/decided!!
So, you're not alone!!! I'm freaking out too!!!
Good luck to you, fellow Memorial Day weekend bride! wink.gif

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smile03.gif Sharin' some love!

Just breathe and pace yourself. I agree, too, about the checklist. It'll allow you to take one bite at a time. How many events in your life are going to take this much planning and energy? Just enjoy it while it lasts. Everything that is supposed to fall into place, will, and some of the small things won't really even matter on the big day. That to-do list will shrink each week. And in the end, you will be married to your prince charming :)
True, true. I really want to enjoy this experience. Things have been really tough lately and I deserve to enjoy this! Thanks!

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You are doing all the right things! Especially the wine :)! EVERYTHING will work out - I personally promise you that! I also remember freaking out and it is completely normal to feel that way! All of a sudden you just realize that you are REALLY getting married! YAY!!! Wine always puts things in perspective for me so a few more glasses and I'm sure you will feel better! And you have all of us here to help you along the way!
Hey Betsy!!! :)

Glad to hear I'm on-key with the wine!!! Hahaha :)

No shit - it IS like you said - you all of a sudden you realize you're REALLY getting married!

Ok, I'm slackin' on the wine - only had one glass so far... gotta sneak downstairs without my roommie seeing me all teary-eyed and blood-shot wink.gif

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Ok, Martin is bringing home sushi and we're gonna curl up in bed and watch "When Harry Met Sally" (can you believe neither of us has seen that?). Life is good again... for now cheesy.gif wink.gif

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Oh and what's even more lame is I'm completely freaking out about getting my skin cleared up, losing weight, finding some way to be tan... totally superficial things!

 

All anyone can really say is it's going to work out (one of my BMs just txted me that), and I know that. So why am I freaking out??[/quote

 

Hey there Jaimelynne- if it makes you feel nay better I totally cried yesterday for no "real" reason. It's not even my time of the month. I am totally overwhelmed with wedding related/school stress. I think I was the chill laidback bride and now I am sort of obsessed with everything. You are not alone! Maybe it's the memorial day weekend brides freak out week?

 

Just so you know what made me cry is that I found out our gym scale has been incorrect for the past few weeks and I was at a Dr. appt. and felt like a fat, pasty white slob. So i hear you on these superficial things. smile03.gif

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Hi Jaime - glad you are starting to feel better. As I was reading your posts i was like "OMG she is typing out my life right now" I too am freaking out about my skin, weight, teeth whitening, and tanning! We are getting down to the wire and there is so much left to do and it feels super overwhelming!

 

Making a list has helped me and talking to FI about where I could use his help. I just want to be in Mexico already and have all this planned out!!

 

Ladies thanks so much for all your advice and giving us brides a place to vent and de-stress

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