Need to vent about SIL!

[sunsetbride1]

I agree with everyone else. You are better off not having there there; she would probably just cause drama so she could be the center of attention. You don't need that at your wedding. Chalk it up to jealousy and feel sorry for her that she is missing out on a great time.

 

My sister is doing the same thing. She has barely acknowledged that I am getting married; said she can't come bc she can't afford it (yet she just took her hubby who doesn't work and my neice to Az and then Cali to DisneyLand for a vaca) and she refuses to talk to me bc she feels I am purposely having a DW to exclude her bc I have more $$ than her!!! LOL.. you are not alone.

[Hartyt509]

Let the silly cow get on with it and be grateful that you don't have to put up with her petulent shite lmao

[Cindy&London]

She sounds like a spoiled brat!! I'm so sorry that you have to put up with her crap. If anyone should say anything about the situation on your wedding day, then I would politely let them know that this is your day and you will not feel guilty for having the wedding of your dreams. If they don't have anything, but well wishes for you and your new hubby then they should probably stay in their room or go play by themself on the beach!

I'm having the same problem with my FMIL, she is not coming to the wedding because she doesn't like the heat?! Note that she went to Hawaii for her honmeymoon. She also said that she already sees us as married anyways.. Uhmm, SO not the point!! Whatever though.. the ones who truely want to be there will be there.

[Celina]

#1 - this girl sounds like a spoiled brat.

#2 - she HAD her wedding - she should let her brother have his

#3 - she sounds VERY - and I repeat VERY insecure

 

I say ignore her. She is doing it for attention (like most spoiled brats do) and move forward with your plans. What she doesn't realize is that this special time will only come once and she should be supportive and enjoy this, but instead she is chosing to act like a big ass baby.

 

Neither of my two siblings came. One caused so much drama all the time that we asked her not to come and the other who had almost a year and a half to save couldn't save for the trip. Enjoy your planning time without her uglyness.

 

Sadly, you see the worst in people during wedding planning. Strange but true.

[MarieSam]

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Originally Posted by Celina #1 - this girl sounds like a spoiled brat. #2 - she HAD her wedding - she should let her brother have his #3 - she sounds VERY - and I repeat VERY insecure I say ignore her. She is doing it for attention (like most spoiled brats do) and move forward with your plans. What she doesn't realize is that this special time will only come once and she should be supportive and enjoy this, but instead she is chosing to act like a big ass baby. Neither of my two siblings came. One caused so much drama all the time that we asked her not to come and the other who had almost a year and a half to save couldn't save for the trip. Enjoy your planning time without her uglyness. Sadly, you see the worst in people during wedding planning. Strange but true.

Exactly!!! Speak on it girl

[ddiinnyyeell]

I feel you girl. A little different from that, my brothers wife handles their "financial" stuff, like trips, dates, what they can spend their free money on, and saving. Well, they informed me they wouldn't be able to afford to come to our wedding. It upset me. It's my brother. But I understood since they just had a very expensive wedding they are still paying off.

 

Then at a family party, I hear her say to one of my relatives -- "yeah I have a lot of weddings I'm going to this year. You know, you just have to be selective about the ones you go to."

 

ARE YOU SERIOUS? So I was one of the ones you selected not to go to? YOUR FAMILY?! And the *only* family member out of that bunch of weddings. I was so mad.

 

Don't stress about it too much. Some people just care about themselves. It's frustrating but I think we all have that "troublesome" family member or friend.

 

Best of luck!

[lolkitteh]

I agree with everyone else - be glad she isn't coming. Stay out of her little circle of misery and be happy.

 

Now, not to defend her or anything, but $4000 to come to a wedding *is* a LOT of money - I mean, you can buy a car for that much. If it makes you feel any better, that could be a fairly valid reason for her not being able to come - I mean, times are hard now, more so than ever, so it may not be a personal thing against you - she may genuinely not be able to afford it. She may have been able to pay off her own wedding, but that doesn't necessarily mean that she is rolling in dough - who knows what she had to cut back on to do it. I know that certain of my and FH's close friends/family would not be able to come to my wedding if I asked them to pay that much. I certainly wouldn't be offended, but OTOH, I wouldn't offer to pay for their trip, either.

 

Regardless, I'd just ignore her.

[cantwait2718]

We are in a similar situation except it is fi mother and father. Just let it roll. I was told on christmas by his mom that I was a selfish bitch for planning my wedding in mexico and someday when i look at my wedding pics I will be sad because no one will be there but us. FI told her photoshop works really well. lol. So just let it go. and tell those who will miss her to stay home bc u don't want to hear it. Sounds to me like she wants someone to pay for her trip.

[RoryS]

I bet even if you offered to pay her way; she'd have another reason not to come. It sounds like she is just jealous - pure and simple - she had her day - basked in the limelight and can't stand the thought that it's now your time to shine. Enjoy your day and try to ignore her - I have a feeling this won't be the first "event" for her to try to outshine you. Just be prepared - I went through the same thing myself with my SIL.

[wahmsuzanne]

I'm so glad I read this post! I'm going through the exact same thing with my FIS ... and it really upsets me. His whole family has been very negative and mine is so excited to see where we pick. In fact, it's the reason why I stopped even planning a wedding and now I'm in a time crunch! *sigh* It's our day (and our 5 kids) and I'm planning it for US and whoever can make it will be there. *SmiLes* Suzanne