I was very unsure at first how to incorporate a lot of these things into the ceremony, so I thought i would post my script. This is my first rough draft so i would love any comments or feedback on things that could be improved.
On behalf of Casey and Brian, I welcome you and thank you all for gathering here on this beautiful day to witness this loving couple join hands in marriage. The fact that you all have travelled such a great distance to be here today is a testament to the amazing amount of love and support they have. Many of you have given them much happiness, unconditional love, encouragement, and guidance through the various stages of their lives. They would like to sincerely thank you all for being here to celebrate their big day. A special and respectful acknowledgement must also be made to those friends and family members who were unable to attend, or have passed on, but whose spirit remains alive and strong in all our hearts. (pause)
Who gives this woman to be wedded to this man? (dad and Jeff- I do)
Casey and Brian, before you met your lives were on different paths with different destinations. Love has brought you together and joined these separate paths into one. Each of your family members and friends here today has been given a small polished stone that represents their unique individuality and their presence at your wedding today. You also each have a stone of your own that symbolizes your previous separate lives, separate sets of friends, separate families and the different lifeâ€™s journeys that you once traveled. I ask that everyone please hold the stone that you have been given throughout the ceremony. Fill your stone with hope, positivity, a prayer, or blessing for happiness and good will for Casey and Brian for the future of their marriage.
This marriage ceremony between Casey and Brian does not mark the beginning of a new relationship; rather, it is an acknowledgement and celebration, of a relationship that has been thriving since they met. Marriage is the mutual commitment of two people sincerely in love who share the same dreams about life. More than that, it is the intimate sharing of two lives. It is a sharing that does not diminish but enhances the individuality of each partner. The institution of marriage is not to be entered into lightly; it symbolizes commitment on every level. Together you will continue to meet the challenges and obstacles of life head on with honesty, integrity, and loyalty.
This beautiful setting should remind us that, like the ocean, human life is an ebb and flow- spirit and emotions move in cycles. To be in a relationship does not guarantee an eternal summer. To make a sincere and honest commitment does not promise an end to all struggles. What a good relationship does offer, much like this ocean, is the opportunity for renewal. A successful relationship recognizes that after every fall and winter, spring and summer will come again. A flourishing relationship takes more than just love. It takes trust, to know in your hearts that you want only the best for each other. It takes dedication, to stay open to one another, to learn and grow, even when it is difficult to do so... And it takes faith, to go forward together without knowing what the future holds for you both.
Casey and Brian have written their vows for one another. Brian will you please say your vows to Casey.
Casey will you please read your vows to Brian.
Brian, do you take Casey to be your wedded wife? (I do)
Casey, do you take Brian to be your wedded husband? (I do)
"I Brian, give you Casey, this ring as an eternal symbol and daily reminder of my love and commitment to you."
"I Casey, give you Brian, this ring as an eternal symbol and daily reminder of my love and commitment to you."
Will everyone please rise.
Will you, the cherished family and friends of Casey and Brian, witnessing these vows do all in your power to support them in their marriage, love them, and encourage their love for one another? (Guests- we will).
You may now sit. (Nicholette will gather stones)
We will now pause collect the stones that have been blessed with good fortune. (pause) The union of these stones has now symbolically joined your once separate lives. Through you, just as the stones have been combined, so now are your friends and family joined. Your once solitary lifeâ€™s paths are also now one, and all that was once separate is now shared. In this sharing you both will find new strength and joy as together you forge a new life path. Stones stand the test of time. Over time they can even become stronger and more beautiful. Let these stones be a reminder and a memorial of the love, blessings and support that your family members and friends have provided you here today.
Katherine Hepburn declared, "Love has nothing to do with what you are expecting to get - only with what you are expecting to give - which is everything."
No ceremony can create your marriage; only you can do that â€“ through love and patience; through dedication and perseverance; through talking and listening, helping and supporting and believing in each other; through tenderness and laughter; through learning to forgive, learning to appreciate your differences, and by learning to make the important things matter, and to let go of the rest. What this ceremony can do is to witness and affirm the choice you make to stand together as life-long partners.
Officiant wording followed byâ€¦
â€œYou may now embrace and share your first kiss as husband and wife.â€
I now present to you Mr. and Mrs. Bonidie!
Thank you for reading this!