help with bridal speech

[Gail]

I would like to make a short speech/toast does anyone have any samples. I can't even think anymore. My FI mom recently passed and I don't know if I should mention in speech. I don't want to upset his dad and family. I was going to do memorial table, but i'm afraid her pic will make them break down

[binzer]

What does your fiance think? I think he would probably have some valuable input since he knows his family best. I also think it's ok for people to be a little sad if it's a special moment (it's sort of like watching a sad movie...it's worth it).

[sunsetbride1]

There is an entire thread on here about 'memorial' gestures (I can't find it right now); I would discuss it with FI to see what he thinks will be best.

My grandmother passed away last year and I am using her ring as my wedding band; so we are going to incorporate a small snippet in our programs about my e-ring being from FI Grandmother (who is too elderly to be able to join us) and my band being from my Grandmother. We may also include something in the ceremony.

I agree with binzer.. its okay if people are a little sad; its a different kind of sad, almost a happy one because they will be remembering the person they loved.

[sunsetbride1]

There is an entire thread on here about 'memorial' gestures (I can't find it right now); I would discuss it with FI to see what he thinks will be best.

My grandmother passed away last year and I am using her ring as my wedding band; so we are going to incorporate a small snippet in our programs about my e-ring being from FI Grandmother (who is too elderly to be able to join us) and my band being from my Grandmother. We may also include something in the ceremony.

I agree with binzer.. its okay if people are a little sad; its a different kind of sad, almost a happy one because they will be remembering the person they loved.

[Gail]

we both want to show she is missed but afraid of upsetting his dad. I guess it's all about finding a happy medium. Are you guys doing a speech thanking everyone etc...

[DarcyJAde]

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Originally Posted by sunsetbride1 There is an entire thread on here about 'memorial' gestures (I can't find it right now); I would discuss it with FI to see what he thinks will be best. My grandmother passed away last year and I am using her ring as my wedding band; so we are going to incorporate a small snippet in our programs about my e-ring being from FI Grandmother (who is too elderly to be able to join us) and my band being from my Grandmother. We may also include something in the ceremony. I agree with binzer.. its okay if people are a little sad; its a different kind of sad, almost a happy one because they will be remembering the person they loved.

That's so sweet. My Grandmother also left me her engagement ring (which was her mother's engagement ring) before she passed away almost 2 years ago. I will have to think about how to include that.

Although, I don't know how people feel about that. To me the ring is very special, but I have been getting weird reactions and comments. Have you?

[sunsetbride1]

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Originally Posted by DarcyJAde That's so sweet. My Grandmother also left me her engagement ring (which was her mother's engagement ring) before she passed away almost 2 years ago. I will have to think about how to include that. Although, I don't know how people feel about that. To me the ring is very special, but I have been getting weird reactions and comments. Have you?

I have not gotten any 'weirdness' from anyone. The family is very happy that we are finding a special way to incorporate both grandmothers in the ceremony who can't be there for whatever reason. I would speak to you family and tell them that you would like to include something; ask them what they would be comfortable with. Every family is different; mine is super laid back so not much bothers them or makes them comment.