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[fitnessfi]

Hi ladies

Hope you can help me??!! We are having a wedding weekend and have decided not to invite children. None of our family have kids, only friends of ours. Most of them are under the age of 5, and we felt that having children at the wedding would change the atmosphere. Also i would like my friends to enjoy their time at our wedding and relax without having to worry about their kids. I want to put something in the Save The Date cards but without it sounding horrible.

Anyone got some suggestions?

Thanks
Fi x

[ACDCDCAC]

maybe pick a resort that is adults only, is that an option? or just say "Adults Only, Please"

[soon2bePowers]

My resort is adults only so I didn't have to worry about it. But I have received invitations that Adult Only. Also when addressing STD's or invitations simply put the people's names who you are inviting instead of writing the family name. That sound really confusing let me provide an example

Instead of: The Weber Family
You could do: Tom and Sara Weber

To me that lets people know.

[Laurita]

Just be prepared that some of your guests may not come to your wedding if children are not welcome. If you are ok with that then no problems! Going to a DW means being away from home for quite many days and leaving young children or even babies / finding a babysitter for longer time can be impossible.

But I really agree with you having children at your wedding changes the atmosphere especially if there are many!

Well, our wedding will not be child-free as we have a 4-year-old daughter but she will the only child at the wedding though

[Betsy]

I agree with Abbie - I think the best way around it is to choose an Adults - only resort. Also, like someone else said, it may be hard for the people who do have kids to find a babysitter for that time.

[Outdoor_girl1010]

I am somewhat having the same problem. We are not taking my FI little girl. Which that was his doing so no big deal there. My little brother who is my life will be 15 when we get married and the Wedding date was set up around him thats how much I want him there. Now my FI sister has a kid that is 13 and 10 and is kinda having a hard time with this. No one else is bringing kids so it is almost a kid free wedding. I just don't understand why she can see it, that is my brother and not look at the age. That would be like me telling one of his sister oh you can't go. My FI understands where I am coming and he gets it but she is kinda having a hard time. What do I do? I think brother is a little bit diff. then the sisters kid.

[beachbride2009]

We decided to not have kids at our wedding, however my FI has so many friends with kids we wanted to think of a solution that would work for everyone. So, after much debating we found a resort that has an adults-only section (for my friends LOL) and a family section, and then for our actual wedding day we told our guests that it's adults only. So some have decided to leave the kids at home with family, some will get sitters at the resort and some are bringing the grandparents on the trip! I haven't heard any complaints at all from anyone so it seems like it's a good solution for everyone!

[Jeremy_Gilliam]

I like BeachBride's solution, or an adults only resort. Many times people have to sacrifice to come to a destination wedding so it is their only vacation. And then to be told that their kids are not welcome to come on the vacation would be hard. Maybe you could provide someone to babysit during the wedding, or if the resort offers that service you could help with the cost and you could have a kid free wedding.

[lgnr22]

Glad I found this post!