My Marriage is Over!!!

[Bridget810]

I just wanted to tell you that you are a great role model--to both us and your children. I wish every female could be as strong as you have been.

[MarieSam]

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Originally Posted by EricaG MarieSam - All he did physically was bang my head against the wall, but if I would have tried to take the kids out of the apt that night, I know that it would have been a lot more than that. When he drinks, he gets into these rages and everything in life that isn't wonderful becomes my fault! He has this look of hate and evil in his eyes and there is no sign of the man I loved or married. As soon as he sobers up he is back to himself and starts apologizing for what was said and done, which usually he doesn't remember anything or only bits and parts. Then come the promises of never drinking again and blah, blah, blah!

Ugh Erica, I am so sorry.. Banging your head against the wall is nothing to take lightly, are you ok? I've seen how different people are when they're drunk, and can only imagine that it's a frightening experience to see your husband enraged at times like that. And apologies and promises are not enough especially because he hasn't followed through and just continues to freefall.

Knowing now that he's gotten violent with you, makes me believe even more, that you are doing the right thing by keeping your distance from him. Your kids are truly blessed to have your strength and courage, so keep doing what you're doing and take care of yourself. No woman should ever have to deal with someone who would ever harm her or her chidren.

[EricaG]

So I called my FIL today to let him know that my Dad was going to pick up my quad tomorrow and he totally spazed on me. I wasn't being a bitch or anything, I just told I wanted to let him know that we were coming to get MY quad. He started saying that nothing was leaving until Larry was out of jail, when I told him that it was MY quad and I was taking it to get fixed, then he started shouting at me saying that NOTHING was leaving until Larry was out. So I informed him that if he was going to be like that, and not let me have MY things, then he would not be seeing his grandkids! He started yelling at me, and I just hung up! I am not playing nice to him if he is going to be a complete jackass too me!

[*Heather*]

Yikes Erica - that sounds bad. Why is he being so nasty to you? It's not like all of this is your fault. I'm sure this is the last thing you need right now! Stay strong.

[FutureMrsLewis]

It sounds like he might be blaming you for Larry's predicament. He doesn't realize that you're actually HELPING his son, and that the only person to blame for Larry's current position is Larry himself.

 

Stand up for yourself, and that quad is rightfully yours, so make sure you get it back. FIL will eventually realize that you're not the bad guy, but for right now, hang in there girl *hugs*

[Chiquita]

Ya it totally sounds like his dad is blaming you right now. Just stay strong girl. We are all here for you! And I agree with everything MarieSam said! I didn't realize Larry had become violent with you.. that is just another reason why he should stay in remand/jail and get help!!!

[Hartyt509]

Erica - call the poilice and tell them you want an member of them present to get your stuff as he is being verbally abusive because of the situation they should do it and FIL has no say in it. You got anything to prove its yours? If so take it. You don't have to take shit from him he should be kissing your feet for looking after his grandkids

[sunsetbride1]

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Originally Posted by Hartyt509 Erica - call the poilice and tell them you want an member of them present to get your stuff as he is being verbally abusive because of the situation they should do it and FIL has no say in it. You got anything to prove its yours? If so take it. You don't have to take shit from him he should be kissing your feet for looking after his grandkids

I am so sorry you are going through this... I commend you on having the stregnth to get out! You are a good mother and role model for all women!

I completely agree with Harty on your current predicament. The police will help you. I have had a lot of personal experience with men that have temper issues to say the least.

Hang in there and if you ever need to talk; let me know.

[sunset78]

I'll say it again like before. I'm so sorry that you and your kids have been going through this, reading more about the rest of it. You are definitely made the BEST choice. You and your kids don't deserve to be put through what you have from him. **HUGS**

 

And as for the dad, yes, he's taking it on you. He's not seeing your side of what is going on and that's not right. He should be supportive and be glad that you got yourself and the kids out of a bad situation. His son needs help and it had to come this because what he was doing... what else did he expect you to do? How would have felt if something happened if you didn't do something.

 

Call the police, ask for an escort, make sure you have the papers for proof.

 

You need another person to be putting you down. I wouldn't let the kids around him for awhile until calms down and comes to realize what you did was right... because who knows what he'll be saying in front/to them.

[DanielleNDerek]

I can understand that the dad is worried about his son. But it sounds like he is trying to blame you for Larry's problems. And you dont know what Larry has told him about the situation. He may of made it ought to be you overreacting to him drinking which was not the case at all. If the father was there that night when everything went down I'm sure he would understand why his son is in remand. Try not to let his reaction upset you.