My Marriage is Over!!!

[Kristy!]

Erica, I'm sorry for being late to this thread, but I want to tell you that you are amazing! Hang in there girl. We're all here for you.

[Mrs. Martin]

I just wanted to say I'm so sorry to hear what you are going through. Like everyone else has said, you are amazing and so brave for the decisions you have made regarding the situation. I wish you and your family the best of luck with what ever comes your way in these next fews months. Please stay strong and know that you have an amazing group of girls here that will listen to you when ever you need it!

[Prettyhazardous]

Hi I commend you for trying to work thru your problems and being a strong role model for your children.

[Jacqueline]

i am SO sorry you're going through this. everyone has said it all, and alyssa's message really made sense and shes so right (you always give good words a- that is a great quality) but anyway, he has to want to change for himself before he can commit to anyone else ya know. i hope he does for his sake and for the kiddies. youre a strong woman and youre in my thoughts. hugs! hang in there doll.

[tvt]

erica I'm so sorry this all happening stay strong!

[foxytv]

Erica - I have been MIA lately, so I am sorry to just be catching up on your thread. What a sad situation to be in - but I must say that your children are lucky to have such an amazing woman in their lives to stand up for their rights and their safety. It sounds to me like Larry will have to understand why you have had your hand forced to make these decisions, and will hopefully understand that his actions are the sole cause of this. It's going to be a tough road ahead - no doubt - but I can tell that you will do what is right for your children - and that your heart is obviosuly still in a good place with Larry, despite the fact that his demons have taken him down the wrong path. Hopefully this will be an eye-opener to send him into rehab on his own and get clean for the sake of his family.

 

You are right about the strong support system that BDW makes possible for us - and we are here for you!

[EricaG]

So I found out that after his court appearance here, he was transferred to the Remand in the city. He will be there until he gets a trial date, which because of the courts being back logged, he may not get until Oct!!!

Don't get me wrong, I am not regretting calling in on him, and I know he needs help, but the remand is not a nice place to be. I am worried about him and I hope that he doesn't get more messed up in there. If they find out what he is in there for, he may have a very hard time from the other inmates and 6 months is a long time! No matter what he is the father of my kids, and I want him to get better, not worse!

[boscobel]

Oh jeez, I can see why that is upsetting. But you just have to remember that you ddi the right thing and he needs to deal with the consequences of his actions. I don't really have any advice for you though, sorry!

[JUSTUSTWO]

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Originally Posted by EricaG Don't get me wrong, I am not regretting calling in on him, and I know he needs help, but the remand is not a nice place to be. I am worried about him and I hope that he doesn't get more messed up in there. If they find out what he is in there for, he may have a very hard time from the other inmates and 6 months is a long time! No matter what he is the father of my kids, and I want him to get better, not worse!

I'm sure you feel bad, but its good to know that you don't regret making the decision that you made in calling the police.
While the thought of him in a not-so-nice place will be difficult, remember why you called in the first place! You called out of concern for yourself, your kids & for him, hoping that he would get the help that he needs.
As some have said before, maybe this will be what it takes for him to realize that he needs help. Maybe this is his rock-bottom.

People find themselves in messed up, not-so-safe situations/relationships all of the time and rarely do anything to address their situation. Thats what makes what you did so amazing. It took strength & courage to do what you did and thats something that many people don't have.

I hope you continue to stay strong & don't second guess anything that has happened, and know that you did the right thing, especially for your kids!

[EricaG]

I'm not second guessing what I did, but I am still concerned for him. He isn't allowed to contact me, but hopefully I will get updates from people he can contact. I do still care for him, and I hope that this is his rock bottom, but that it doesn't have to be hell for 6 months. Especially if in the end he is only sentenced to like 3 months, but served 6! Ultimately this is his problem, he did it to himself, and he is the one that has to deal with it, but knowing where he is now and hearing what it is like from someone that was there, I do worry about him.