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[EricaG]

Well, I figured that I would let you all know that my marriage is over since you all saw me through the planning leading up to our big day. Over the years he has struggled with a drinking problem and was given the option of having a life with me or a life with alcohol. He chose me and was doing fairly well. There were a few bumps along the way, but we dealt with them and made it through. Well, he has chosen the alcohol over me for the last time and after I told him we were done, he ended up going out drinking again and this time he had the kids with him, so he was driving with them!!! Things starting getting pretty bad and home, and in the end, after I walked up to the hospital for my night shift, I called the RCMP and had him arrested! My kids are at my parents place and I will probably be staying there for awhile.

[MarieSam]

Oh sweetheart, I am soooo soooo sorry you are dealing with this

First off I commend you for willing to give him an ultimatum in the first place, not many people are strong enough to do that. And given the latest incident, I do not blame you at all for making the decision to have him arrested ~ that took a lot of courage and strength on your part. And for me at least, the fact that he drove with the children in the car while being intoxicated is teetering the fence of unforgiveable. I know alcohol is a tough personal demon, but to risk hurting your children must have you zipping through emotions of sadness and anger all at once.

The fact that he did that should serve as a wakeup call to him that he has a huge problem that needs to be dealt with ASAP. First and foremost I think you should do as you've been doing, and think about yourself and the well-being of your kids. Speaking as a mother I know there is no greater love that what you feel for your children ~ you are so right in doing what it takes to protect them. They need a strong mother like you, so keep your head up hon.

Gosh, I don't know what else to say except to stay strong and know that we are all here for you to vent or confide in.

[Helen_S81]

I'm so sorry that you are going through this. I admire the courage you have for stepping up and making the safety of your children the priority.

Remember to take care of yourself as you go through this.

Wishing you well.

[pinklori]

I'm so sorry to hear that! I really admire how strong you are though. I wish you only the best right now and hope you know what a smart and brave thing you did for yourself and your kids.

[shellb]

Oh Erica, so sorry you are having to go through this. I agree with MarieSam's comments and commend you for making a very hard decision.

A big hug and remember we are here if you need us.

[FutureMrsLewis]

You are a VERY brave woman, and my heart goes out to you. Many people in your shoes wouldn't have been able to stand up for themselves and their children like you did, and you should be very proud because you've made a better life for yourself and your children in the long run. You deserve a pat on the back, and a really, really big hug And remember, the BDW girls are always here to listen and give you feedback

[ErinB]

Erica! I'm so sorry. I know this was not an easy decision. I commend you for your strength in doing what is best for your family.

We're here whenever you need us.

[yamille]

Erica I understand from personal experience how hard this may feel. Just follow your gut and stay strong. I wish you and your family the best and am sending you a big big hug.

[Jamaica0619]

I am so sorry you have to deal with this. But, I commend you on taking the actions you did to protect yourself and your children. There are many women who would not and could not do this. Continue to be strong...for yourself and your children

[lil_miss_frogg]

Oh Honey, I'm so sorry you are having to deal with this...and only a few months after you got married. But you know it is the right thing for you and your children.

I myself was in a relatinoship where my boyfriend was drinking 3 pints of 100 proof vodka a day...if not more, I wasn't with him 24-7. It took him pinning me to a wall and punching the wall beside my head to leave him. He had never been abusive physically but the mental abuse wasn't enough for me to leave him. I dealt with it for almost three years.

I commend you for standing up for you andyour children. Unlike everybody else I think your kids come first and then you, but take of everybody. I wish you the best.