A little down about people's reactions...
Posted 13 February 2009 - 10:48 PM
Posted 14 February 2009 - 04:02 PM
Cheer up and know that you're not alone in this battle. In the end you will marry the man of your dreams and that's all that matters.
Posted 14 February 2009 - 08:29 PM
I'm going into it KNOWING that the vast majority of people won't come..and being ok with it. I'm not trying to beg, cajole, or convince anybody to be there. You guys are right, it's amazing how people ASSUME a bunch of crap about it right off the jump, as if we're seriously asking them to pay thousands and thousands of dollars for a couple of days on the beach. We're not ritzy five star people, so one would THINK that folks would know we aren't trying to book the freakin Ritz or something.
ANYway, let it roll off. A.) like everyone is saying, this isn't about anyone but the two of you, and B.) it's not like it would be some horrendous hardship for people to take their vacation some place..oh, I dunno, gorgeous and exotic. It's ballsy for people to approach you like that in response to the news and they should know better.
http://i17.photobuck....inecollage.jpgThe Fab Four (my quads) Meryn, Kellen, Nico & Layla
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Posted 14 February 2009 - 10:17 PM
Okay, sorry, I think I just had to vent...but I agree it is so frustrating.
Posted 15 February 2009 - 12:00 AM
I had a lot of complaints initially (not just about having a destination wedding, but about WHERE I was having my destination wedding) and although I can deal with normal complaints, passive aggressive behaviour makes me crazy! My MiL really wanted her son to get married at a resort she loves in Hawaii (totally not our style) and I think she's bitter that I did my own thing. After I booked Costa Rica she kept saying things like "well, if Tyson only has two people there, that's ok" as if I only cared about my side of the family! It also didn't even make sense b/c the wedding she wanted wouldve been way more expensive for everyone. As it turns out of course, everyone we invited on his side is coming (despite the fact that she constantly told me they wouldn't be able to) but now she complains that the people coming won't be able to afford it, and that she'll have to pay for their flights and rooms (again, this doesn't make sense...people wouldn't rsvp if they couldnt afford it!).
All that being said, I'm starting to see the light at the end of the tunnel. Now that I've sent my invitations out, I'm starting to hear back from people, and a lot of them are really excited! As the day gets closer you'll hear less and less from the people that aren't coming, and more and more from the excited people who are. Also, once everything is set in stone, people tend to keep their mouths shut b/c there's no point in complaining, and they also start to feel guilty about it.
Regarding people who are coming that are complaining, I find it helps to include them. Discuss things as if you really value their input (even if it's about something small and insignificant and it's likely they won't complain as much b/c they'll feel like they have a stake in the wedding
Posted 15 February 2009 - 12:01 PM
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