Speeches and toasts at a casual wedding
Posted 09 February 2009 - 05:42 PM
I'm having a fairly casual wedding in Costa Rica at a boutique hotel that we have completely to ourselves. There will be about 20 people present, and the "reception" is basically dinner and dancing with a Calypso band.
I've only been to a couple weddings ever, and they had the typical MC with speeches practically on a timer, but since my wedding is fairly casual and it's an intimate setting I don't feel like I need to force speeches on anyone, but I'm sure there will be some guests who would make toasts regardless.
That being said, I don't want it to be awkward, and for it to feel too un-wedding-y, so how do most people proceed in this sort of situation? Do you ask people beforehand if they'll do a quick toast? And if so, what toasts should be done and by whom? Do you just let people do them whenever, or what?
Anyways, I've never been to a casual wedding and I have no idea how this should work! Please let me know of any possibilities
Posted 09 February 2009 - 08:38 PM
I think the important part is having ONE person start off for sure this way people don't feel too shy and then therefore no speeches. Hope this helps!
Posted 09 February 2009 - 08:57 PM
So, my father spoke briefly then we had our videographer go around to people individually over the course of the evening. Everyone was able to say what they wanted and it was a treat to see when we got our video back.
Hope that helps
Posted 09 February 2009 - 11:17 PM
Posted 10 February 2009 - 02:58 AM
I'm going to talk to the manager/owner of the hotel later this week (he's sort of organizing everything) and hopefully I can get some advice from him. The hotel only holds 24 people and I know they've had weddings there before, so he may have some good ideas.
It seems like this is a common concern, so you experienced wedding-savvy ladies please continue to feed us your advice
Posted 10 February 2009 - 11:36 AM
Hopefully we can get some input that can help
Posted 10 February 2009 - 11:42 AM
Posted 10 February 2009 - 08:16 PM
So, my DH and I decided NO SPEECHES at our wedding:_)
Which was also small (26 total)...
DH got up and spoke at the beginning of dinner (and mentioned no speeches then), and I got up at the end of dinner to say a few words...
It was GREAT:-)
Anyone who REALLY wanted to say something said it at dinner the next night
Posted 10 February 2009 - 08:46 PM
| Originally Posted by Christinamaria22 |
I am in the same boat... I am having a "private" cake eating and music after dinner just so the small group of 20 can mingle, but we are not really doing teh traditinal stuff so i wonder how we should announce the first dance music being played by our ipod and base.... no MC so... ugh! I need some pointer too... will it be a total flop?
Posted 10 February 2009 - 10:08 PM
when you had those toasts, where they all at once, or were they timed, or did they just happen when people were ready?
I don't want to have to organize things and put pressure on people, but I don't want to forbid speeches either (my dad made a beautiful speech at my sister's more traditional wedding, and I don't want to miss out if he's planning one for me).
Hearing what other people have done is really helpful, so please continue to do so everyone
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