I've decided to go with Shade of Pale and to get their middle option of high quality for $395. The communication has been great and I was able to get really detailed photos of the dress, so I'm less nervous about all the details. I did get a lower quote from Gianiar Bridal, but I'm bothered by their $150.00 non-refundable deposit.
I've decided to stay away from DHGate.com completely. After reading the reviews in this thread and viewing reviews on other wedding boards, I just don't feel it's a good risk. In one week alone, three of the manufacturer's of my dress on DHGate.com went from very positive 95% and higher ratings to below 87%. Something's up with that.
I'm attaching pictures of the dress I tried on in david's bridal. I'll post pics of the dress from Shades of Pale once I receive it.
Thanks to all the ladies who posted here and gave reviews. You helped me make this decision.