Paying for guests?
Posted 04 February 2009 - 04:38 PM
Posted 04 February 2009 - 05:09 PM
If it is just the bridal party complaining, maybe you can let them know that if they can't afford it they don't have to come. Instead of paying their travel expenses you can offer to pay for the wedding attire or something. I bought my bridesmaid's dresses and everything they needed for the wedding day so it was less they needed to worry about and spend money on since they were paying for the trip. I also only had 2 BMs and a flowergirl and we budgeted to cover those items up front since it was something I wanted to do from the beginning.
Posted 04 February 2009 - 05:54 PM
If FI wants to pay for his brother then he needs to find the cash for that himself and I agree its not fair to pay for one and not the other
Posted 04 February 2009 - 06:00 PM
Posted 04 February 2009 - 07:11 PM
First, you can't pay for one immediate family member and not the others; that will cost more drama than your DW itself.
Second, if people can't afford to come; wish them well and tell them you will show them the pics when you return. My sister and her family aren't coming; bc they cannot afford it... But, this is what FI and I want for a wedding; so if we only have the 14 people that have already booked; so be it. And mind you, only our parents and one of my cousins are coming from either of our families. Some of our family was upset at first and complained up a storm.. eventually it died down when they saw that we were set on having a DW and no amount of bching would change it.
Posted 04 February 2009 - 07:17 PM
Posted 04 February 2009 - 07:46 PM
Posted 04 February 2009 - 07:50 PM
Also worried about being "fair" - so we just aren't telling anyone what we are paying for!
Posted 08 February 2009 - 02:04 AM
Posted 08 February 2009 - 04:20 AM
It may not be a lot but to those on a tight budget it could make the difference!
When we decided on a DW we knew our immediate family (six of them) would have a really hard time with the cost. So instead of all the extras at the wedding we went for the no frills package so we could pay for them to come; for us that was more important.
Honestly at the end of the day I think its more important that you donâ€™t go into debt for your wedding if you can help it, if you canâ€™t afford to pay for these people then you need sit down with your FI and together come up with a viable solution to either rework the budget or tell them sorry.
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