"No gifts, please" - Etiquette experts, please chime in!
Posted 06 February 2009 - 03:33 PM
I think we will give it a try and see what the reaction is. I think we will be pretty adament about not registering though. We'll see! It's still pretty early, anyway.
Posted 06 February 2009 - 08:26 PM
Posted 07 February 2009 - 03:22 PM
One thing I try to remember is that traditional etiquette is generally based on traditional weddings, which destination weddings usually aren't. In my mind, the regular etiquette would be much more appropriate if I had 300 guests that I hardly knew that weren't paying $1200 in air fares. As it is, we know everyone who will attend our wedding fairly intimately, and can't imagine that any of them will possibly be offended (we do know that some of them would be stressed out without any info however).
All that being said, we suspect that some of the guests may absolutely insist on buying gifts, so we're considering registering somewhere like Amazon where we can register for small things that we'd like to have (books, the odd kitchen utensil, etc) and by avoiding registering for anything expensive, we hope to stop anyone from spending too much. The gifts would then also just be sent directly to our house, which would be very nice for obvious reasons.
Anyways, gl! Without all this etiquette stuff wedding planning would be a breeze!
Posted 10 February 2009 - 05:00 PM
Posted 15 February 2009 - 12:49 AM
Posted 15 February 2009 - 01:26 AM
Posted 25 March 2009 - 06:17 PM
| Originally Posted by Starryt |
Love the "your presence is our present" going to add that to my site. The memories of family and friends supporting you will out last towels and toasters.
Posted 30 March 2009 - 09:06 PM
So, I felt the closest thing I could do is write the above and then we registered for a Honeymoon Registry where a certain percantage of the money "raised" went to the Breast Cancer Research Foundation (I wrote a thread about this...) so this way, our guests know that we aren't trying to get money out of them, but if they HAVE to give us a gift, at least they know that we are sending some of it to a charity...I just felt like this was the perfect medium ground...for us
Posted 02 April 2009 - 01:04 AM
That being said, there have been a few people I have told this to that have been genuinely upset at the idea of not getting us a wedding gift, and really don't like the "no gifts" policy. I think that our not wanting to make people get us gifts has been misinterpreted as us saying that we don't want what people would like to give us. Of course that's not the case. Gifts are wonderful, I just don't want anyone to feel like we're expecting any because we're not!
So personally I think that I will say something on our future wedsite about our wedding being non-traditional therefore we request no gifts, and that particularly for those who are able to attend, our guests presence on our special day is all the gift that we want... but I don't know, I may have to do a small registry for those who are really insistent.
Posted 13 April 2009 - 03:05 PM
However, knowing our family and friends, they will insist on giving us a gift....that being said, we weren't sure if we should include an insert into our invites about gifts or just include something on our website...
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