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"No gifts, please" - Etiquette experts, please chime in!

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This is my 2nd marriage and my FI 1st. With that being said we will registrar however with my family I will add in the invitation that gifts are not necessary and all that we ask is their presence. I feel bad for getting more gifts since this is my 2nd marriage.

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I think its okay to state along lines of Ms Manners and reiterate that you do not want to have any gifts.

 

If people still choose not to compy, then really--there is no harm no foul is there? At the end of the day, realize you are cherished and blessed to have great supportive folks around you!

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When I told my Aunt we weren't registered she was SHOCKED,,,"What do you mean you're not registered?" and sent a chip and dip set to me and FI who are both 40, been married before and are trying to combine 4 sets of dishes and flatware, 2 microwaves, and 3 bedroom sets into a 2 bedroom house. We've donated TONS of stuff to shelters and charities already. We don't want any kind of gifts. We just want people to come.

 

I know it's not the best ettiquete, but like some others have posted, on our wedding website, in the registry section that I couldn't take off, I put "Your presence is our gift".

 

That being said, I know some people will still give a gift. I think if I was invited to a wedding like this, I would probably give some kind of gift...maybe not the same gift as an AH Wedding, but it's hard to imagine not giving a gift to my best friends or my sister.

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We feel exactly the same as you and your FI. It's second time for us both and we're not spring chicks anymore. We are so grateful that friends and family are travelling to be with us, spending their hard earned cash and using their holidays to be with us that we actually feel uncomfortable accepting any form of gift from any guests.

 

We wrote this on our website :-

"As you know, we have been together for a long time and already have a lovely home and there is nothing that we want for.

 

We really appreciate you travelling all the way to Kalkan for our special day and realise how expensive it is for you and it is for this reason that we do not require any wedding gifts - nor do we want cash - or cheques!!

 

 

Your gift will be joining us and giving us your love and best wishes."

 

I really hope our guests understand where we are coming from, but I guess only time will tell as we don't get married until next year.

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