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Are you paying for your bridal party's hotel?

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#1 DGG

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    Posted 21 January 2009 - 05:30 AM

    I was reading on several etiquette websites and it says you are supposed to pay for at least 2 nights lodging for all members of your wedding party.
    We are not doing this and didn't think we needed to (and other friends haven't paid for us when we were in their weddings) - but I was wondering what everyone else is doing..
    Don't get me wrong, I wish I could afford to pay for our friends and family's hotel - but we are way over-budget and are paying for the entire wedding ourselves - but I don't want everyone thinking we are inconsiderate...
    this isn't what everyone else is doing, right

    #2 Cindy&London

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      Posted 21 January 2009 - 05:37 AM

      We are not paying for our WP's hotel stay or any of their trip for that matter. I bought one of my girl's their dress and I will be giving them personal gifts as well. I don't think that ettiquite applies to a DW and if you are paying for your wedding yourself and are over budget then I'm sure they will understand. I don't believe alot of the girls here paid for their wedding party either. If you asked them to be in your wedding and they know that you are not paying for their lodging and they said yes, then there is no reason to feel guilty about it. They are getting a vacation out of it too!! If it wasn't in their budget then I'm sure they wouldn't do it :)
      Relax and have fun planning your dream wedding!!

      #3 chickadee024

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        Posted 21 January 2009 - 10:49 AM

        We are paying for our WP's rooms for 2 nights, but we're also staying at Negril Escape Resort & Spa in Jamaica, which isn't an AI and the rooms aren't expensive at all. I think they're less than $100 a night, which we thought we can do. If we were staying at an AI, I don't think we could afford it either.

        #4 tylersgirl

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          Posted 21 January 2009 - 10:58 AM

          Our BP consists of my sister and my FI's brother, so my parents are paying for my sister and his parents are paying for his brother. Both of them are 22 though and still in college. I don't think you have to pay for the BP at all in these days, but if you can afford to it would be a nice gesture.

          #5 sunstarsmoon

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            Posted 21 January 2009 - 11:49 AM

            I am not paying for their accomodations, but I am buying their clothes, MOH is a close friend and she bought my dress for her wedding, and the bridesmaid and groomsman are my children so I will buying theirs.
            July 8, 2011, Couples Sans Souci Ocho Rios, Jamaica

            #6 punkie569

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              Posted 21 January 2009 - 03:34 PM

              Wow I'm glad I'm not having a WP cuz that could get pricey if you did have to pay for them.

              The few people I've known to do a DW haven't paid for any accomodations for their WP. I think it all really depends on your budget. Of course we'd all like to be able to pay for our guests but it's just not resonable to think you can do that and pay for everything else. I think any friend would be willing to pay to vacation with you and be honored that you wanted her/him to be apart of your day.
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              #7 sunsetbride1

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                Posted 21 January 2009 - 04:08 PM

                We are not paying for anything for our WP. Like the others said, they are getting a vacation out of it and they knew when we asked them to be in the WP that they would have to pay for their accomodations and transport. If we had the $$, we would love too.. but it would be thousands of dollars that we don't have.
                We are getting them some nice gifts, but other than that - its the pleasure of our company for the week and the honor of standing up for us at our wedding that they will get out of this! LOL!

                #8 Erika J

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                  Posted 21 January 2009 - 04:38 PM

                  I do not plan on paying for accomadations, I have bought them cute vera bradley totes as thier gifts for the girls. (Still not sure what to do for the boys) I plan on buying the dresses for the BMs and Shirts for the GMs.

                  MOH is my sister so my dad is helping with her hotel and other BM is my bff and she did not pay for my travel or accomodations or dress when I was her BM so I feel like it will be fine.

                  #9 Hartyt509

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                    Posted 21 January 2009 - 04:43 PM

                    We aren't paying for anything for our guests. They had the option not to come and we can just afford to pay for ourselves let alone anyone else

                    #10 deefalvey

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                      Posted 21 January 2009 - 04:54 PM

                      We are not paying for anyone's accomodations. Everyone is going down for a week to celebrate and party - If we had to pay for 2 nights for everyone in the BP, we would be staying home for the week of fun
                      Bill and DeannaJuly 24, 2009

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