Posted 17 January 2009 - 06:45 PM
This morning my mom emails me to tell me that she doesn't think they would make it to the wedding because they'll probably be tied up in court. Now, I personally think she's overreacting. She seems to think that this guy will be able to make them shut their business down until things get settled in court. All of this guys previous lawsuits have drug on for years.
So...what do I do now?! Do I go ahead and plan the destination wedding, hoping things will get figured out so they can come while risking that they might not be there? Or do I forget what we really want, plan a wedding here that will cost US much more money with the chance that this case won't even make it to court? I'm only stressing out because it's almost a year away and we need to start reserving things - wherever it is. I know a lot of people wouldn't give a second thought to this - they would do what they had to make sure their parents were there. But my parents have been far less than supportive and aren't the ones paying for the wedding. I'm so torn. This is supposed to be a great day and now i'm stressing over it. I don't know that I could be fully happy if they weren't there or we had to sacrifice our wedding dream to make sure they were. I think i'd be especially bitter if they were just using this as an excuse, get us to do it here, and then it never even goes to court. I'm thinking we should go to vegas today for the holiday weekend. Haha.
What would YOU do?
Posted 17 January 2009 - 08:03 PM
Posted 17 January 2009 - 09:08 PM
My FI and I knew from the beginning of our relationship that if we were to be married that it would be a DW (we first met in the Carribean). That meant that we would be excluding some family members, possibly even our parents. It all worked out in the end, my parents and his mother are more than happy to attend. However, my FI's father will not be attending as he has prior commitments.
The most important thing to think about is how much it would bother you if your parents were unable to be there.
Posted 17 January 2009 - 09:14 PM
Posted 17 January 2009 - 09:39 PM
Posted 17 January 2009 - 10:44 PM
Posted 18 January 2009 - 04:04 AM
Posted 18 January 2009 - 09:09 AM
If you really want a DW have it, there is no point in being miserable and lets face it you would probably resent them for it as would FI. If their relationship is dodgy to start with that will not help. I'm selfish and would say oh thats a shame and book what i wanted. You only get one shot (sometimes!) so do whats in your heart
Posted 19 January 2009 - 06:16 PM
This is your wedding and if the parents really want to be there; they will find a way to be there. I am sure the courts would understand if they tell them right from the 'get - go' that their daughter is getting married on these dates.
I would have the wedding of my dreams with my FI and I (super romantic, just the two of you if that's what it comes down to); video tape it, take lots of pics and show the parents later. They are also the ones making the decision not to be there.
When its all said and done, its your decision. You want to be able to look back on your wedding day and be happy with it. In the end, your parents are suppsoed to love you and support you no matter what; if they aren't, then that's thier problem.
I don't mean to sound harsh - but so many of us go through the drama of ppl trying to make us feel bad for having a DW. It's our weddings and if you love us, support us.
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