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Are you serious, or did you just do a plot twist from "Bride Wars?" (Kidding) :) In these types of situations, I usually just go with 'guys are clueless.' I am sure if he even mentioned it to his wife she would say no. This IS your day. Good luck!

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I'm just going to use the "He's a man" excuse. I would just tell him, look you actually think your wife would want to have to share her romantic day with my real wedding?

 

Try and convince him that a nice secluded vow renewal on the beach with the 2 of them would be more "romantic" then "sharing" a day with someone else.

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Yup, I'm with Cattie. I doubt his wife would find it romantic that he's piggy-backing on someone else's day! So, if you want to take the blame off of yourself, just suggest that his wife would probably appreciate her "own special day"; not one that she has to share with someone else. And, yes, men are often clueless! If I had a nickel for every time a guy friend proposed to his girlfriend during a wedding day (completely tacky), I'd be a very rich girl.

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Oh HELL NO!!!! shameonyou.gif Although he has good intentions, your cousin's husband is clearly clueless as to how tacky, obtrusive and ridiculous of an idea this is to piggyback your day and do a double wedding?? Put your foot down girl!!! mad2.gif

 

Let him know, that while you think it's wonderful that he's trying to surprise your cousin, this is a special day that is important to both you and FI. Tell him you guys really want to just focus on each other that day and it's something you've planned for a long time. If necessary, bring up the idea of maybe doing it in the days AFTER your wedding...although to me, that's still a bit tacky confused.gif

 

But yes ~ I strongly support a big HELL NO to the idea!!!!

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Men, Men, Men!! Hopefully you've had some time to vent and with the help of all the wonderful ladies on here you can come up with a good solution. Since you love your cousin and would like to see her happy, and her husband is obviously clueless perhaps you can help them out a little. I know, I know, you put a lot of work into planning your day, but let's face it, helping him out is better than having him join in on YOUR day.

 

I would suggest helping him set something up the next day. A simple renewal of the vows on the beach followed by a brunch at the Resort Restaurant. You figure you will eat brunch the next day anyways. Perhaps he can set-up an appointment with the Spa to get her hair and makeup done to make it special for her. You can offer the names of some photographers so they can have some pictures, and he can buy a bouquet for her.

 

Look at this way, you've inspired him to do something nice for your cousin. Just make sure it's not on YOUR DAY!!

 

Let us know how it turns out! Good Luck.

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One of our friend's may be proposing to his girl (also our friend) during our wedding week. I have told him that up until the wedding day is mine and FI's time...after that is their vacation and they can do as they please. I think that is a fair thing to request that he do it on another day. They are taking the time and money to travel, so I consider it their own vacation, but like I said...up until the ceremony is about us!! wink.gif

 

I am actually surprising my parents with a vow renewal two days after our ceremony because it just happens to be their 30th wedding anniversary. So I think later in the week, after your day, would be ok...IMO.

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I agree with everyone else. And if you need furhter proof that this is not a good idea, just ask Betsy. She was pretty much forced into a double wedding and things got a bit crazy. (But she handled it SO well.)

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Oh HELL NO!!!! shameonyou.gif Although he has good intentions, your cousin's husband is clearly clueless as to how tacky, obtrusive and ridiculous of an idea this is to piggyback your day and do a double wedding?? Put your foot down girl!!! mad2.gif

Let him know, that while you think it's wonderful that he's trying to surprise your cousin, this is a special day that is important to both you and FI. Tell him you guys really want to just focus on each other that day and it's something you've planned for a long time. If necessary, bring up the idea of maybe doing it in the days AFTER your wedding...although to me, that's still a bit tacky confused.gif

But yes ~ I strongly support a big HELL NO to the idea!!!!
I couldnt of said that any better!

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