3 weeks and she dropped out
Posted 13 January 2009 - 02:29 AM
They kept putting off buying flights and booking thier rooms. They had different excuses everytime that I asked them about it. Now I have to order new programs for the ceremony because she offered to do a reading for me. We have also spent a lot of money on them. I bought her a $100 neckalace. Not to mention all the stuff we bought for them for the oot bags. We put coolers, towels and tons of little stuff in the bags.
Sorry to vent to all of you but Im sure someone on here has been through the same thing. Im just really upset. If it was a problem from the beginning she should have said something. My fiance kept telling me that they werent going to go. But I like to give people the benefit of the doubt.
Posted 13 January 2009 - 02:41 AM
I have 4 very close friends, and had always said they would all be bridesmaids. One of them told me last year she would not be able to come, so I didn't even bother asking her. I am sure she is upset now bc we had always told each other that we woudl be each others BMs, but I can't stand her drama anymore. She blew off my birthday last year, I am sure she would blow off the wedding anyway. As for the other three, only one has committed (my MOH). One lives in England and I knew from the beginning she may not be able to go...she just moved there recently and hasn't found a job yet. My third friend said she would go, but is single and doesn't want to go alone. She was going to room with another friend of ours, who can no longer go, so now she is saying she's not sure! I understand that it's more expensive to go by yourself, but I've offered her to split the cost of the room with another of my friends or family members who are going as singles, and she thought it would be too weird. I'm nervous that she is going to back out...
Now that I've read this I think I'm going to give my BMs a deadline to book. I know it sounds shitty but I don't want to run into problems with programs and that kind of thing...
I'm the same way about giving people the benefit of the doubt, but I think I will have to make an exception for my wedding...I don't want anything to ruin it. One of the reasons we are getting married in Mexico is to RELIEVE stress...it's things like this that show you who your true friends are!
Your wedding is going to be perfect no matter what...I can't wait till you get back and I can hear all about it!
Married July 16, 2009
Aventura Cove Palace Resort
Riviera Maya, Mexico
photo by Misti Douglas
Posted 13 January 2009 - 02:48 AM
Posted 13 January 2009 - 05:34 AM
BTW - She informed you via text!!! WTF!!! Tacky...
Best of luck!
Posted 13 January 2009 - 06:10 AM
I'm sorta in the same boat with FI's best friend who is his best man, his wife is one of my BM, their son a junior GM, and their daughter is my flowergirl. Yep, they're all in the wedding. FI has expressed he is highly suspect of them coming to the wedding despite them saying they will be there for the past 2 years. Basically, they're really tight with money or how his BF likes to say "we're broke". So I'm just waiting for the and them to drop the "we can't make it" news. *sigh* But again, we've all just gotta forge ahead and remember the importance of the day because no matter what happens our weddings will be amazing and special no matter what!!
Posted 13 January 2009 - 10:36 AM
Posted 13 January 2009 - 10:41 AM
i wouldn't bother re-doing your programs, but do what you feel is best. You could always print tiny labels with the correct readers name and just paste them on (though that would be time consuming, as well).
chin up - you're still going to have a fabulous day!!!
Posted 13 January 2009 - 11:10 AM
Posted 13 January 2009 - 01:08 PM
Posted 13 January 2009 - 01:17 PM
i expect that from someone that has not been married before because they have absolutely zero concept of how stressful all the planning is, etc.. so hopefully it isn't one of my BM that is already married! but like everyone else said,..brush it off girl, and try not to stress. things always work out, and the main point is, YOU ARE GETTING MARRIED!! :0) i don't think its necessary for you to waste any more money on program changes either...guests understand that stuff happens..
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