Sing Happy Birthday to a guest at my wedding dinner?

[SunnyBride]

We have about 40 guests coming to our wedding in Mexico; On my family's side, one of my parents friends 60th birthday is January 29th, which is the same day that we're getting married. At the reception, during the dinner, Mom wants me to have the emcee announce her birthday and have everyone sing Happy birthday. I don't think it's appropriate, given that it's our wedding dinner, though I would be fine having the emcee acknowledge that it's her birthday (just no singing). I think it detracts from our wedding day!

 

What are your thoughts? Am I being unreasonable/bridezilla? Would you do it??

[MarieSam]

I don't know....IMHO I wouldn't mind having everyone sing Happy Birthday, especially because she's turning 60, which is concerned a milestone. In fact I think it would be a very thoughtful gesture and I'm sure she would be very surprised and touched. Just imagine, the woman's turning 60 and of all the places she could be, she's choosing to spend it at your wedding, so it seems like she really wants to be there

 

As for your concerns, I don't think your guests would lose sight of the fact that it's your day, afterall, they've all traveled thousands of miles for your special occassion. A short minute acknowledging someone else's birthday isn't gonna make everyone forget they are all there to celebrate the love between you and your hubby-to-be!

 

Just my $.02

[neen]

I think its OK if you don't want to, its your wedding so you should feel free to tell you mom no. That said, its my nieces 10th bday on the day of our wedding and I'm so excited to have the whole reception sing Happy Birthday to her cause I know it'll make her feel special.

 

But again - totally your call.

[becks]

We had a bunch of people with birthdays in and around the week of our wedding. We had the resort bring out a big birthday cake for dessert at our rehersal dinner and we all sang and had fun. It was nice, and we planned it specifically so that it wouldn't happen on our wedding day.

[ACDCDCAC]

happy birthday takes like 12 seconds to sing. i was a total bridezilla on my wedding day, and even i wouldnt have minded giving 12 seconds to someone else for such an exciting milestone. i think it would mean a LOT to the birthday lady. thats a hard birthday!

[zethers]

My birthday and my Dad's birthday was the same week, not even the same day as my Sister's wedding, and she had the emcee announce it, then she took the mic and said something along the lines of how special we were to her, and how she couldn't have pulled off her wedding without us, I was the MOH. Then everyone sang Happy Birthday to us. It was really sweet, I know I appreciated it, and I think it showed a lot of class on her part. All eyes were still on her, and the party continued.

 

It is your day though, you do what you feel comfortable with and whatever will make you happy. Let us know what you decide.

[SunnyBride]

This is exactly why this forum is so useful - for giving us brides a bit of perspective! I think I was getting a bit carried away; your responses make me think this isn't such a big deal. I guess I was just trying to imagine this at any wedding I've ever been to (none of which were destination weddings) and it seemed so out of place to me.

[MsShelley]

The last wedding I was at it was someone's birthday (I can't remember who it was but it was someone close to the bride) but they sang Happy Birthday and brough her out a little cake, everyone sang it was really nice, and then the wedding reception went on, no biggie!

[Jennifer Davis]

I liked becks idea. I think it is ok if you do not want to celebrate a birthday on your wedding. I also think it could be even more special if you had a separate birthday celebration for your parent's friend. This way - you could both have your own special day.

 

I also don't think it would take anything away from your day if you allowed your guests to sing happy birthday either.

 

A separate thought - I know we girls tend to get carried away with our weddings. They are a once in a lifetime event and we want to make sure everything is perfect and just as we always pictured it would be. I am trying very hard through my experience to "keep the koo-koo in the clock" and stay relaxed about things even if they aren't going to be as I planned. I am also trying to keep things in perspective and think of my guests and the experience they will have even if I have to adjust my plans a little to accomodate them. It is important to me to make the experience of attending my wedding as special and memorable for the guests who choose to attend as possible.

[trance_angelx0x]

I'm going to assume you are younger than 60. Why would all the attention go to her when they can look at a hot chick in her wedding dress?