is anyone not having an AHR???

[Susanandmo]

I'm not having a AHR and I'm so glad, because we can't afford it, plus I don't want to deal with the stree of hosting a party. For us, the point of having a DW was to safe money and to have something small, so AHR won't really works for us.

 

Best of luck with your decision. Keep us posted!

[Jenn79]

We had talked about doing one and even went to far as to reserve a space, but after the wedding we just didn't see the point. Yes, there were a lot of people who weren't at the wedding but there was a reason for that. We had a great time with the wedding we had and were more than happy with how things turned out.

[Andi]

Quote:

Originally Posted by krazyk No we're not doing one either. Hate to sound bitchy about it, but I just don't feel like accomadating people just because they aren't coming. The purpose in having a DW was to save money. The important people will be in Mexico and that's all that matters to us.

Quote:

Originally Posted by tdmitchell We aren't having one! We are fine about the decision, but others want us to have one. Its NOT about what others want, so we are sticking to the decision. We decided on a DW in part because of the cost, so having an AHR would defeat the purpose.

Couldn't agree with you both more!

We have decided to NOT have one. our parents I think though are going to try to push for one...and that is fine as long as they plan and pay for it! the whole reason for us having a DW is to 1.) save money and 2.) keep the wedding as simple as possible with only the (and I hate to sound like a snot here) important people there!

[*Nadine*]

I agree with you guys (Andi, krazyk, tdmitchell). A few of our friends who arent coming keep telling us we should have one for everyone that cant make it, but truth me told, we will have 80-90 people join us and we are not about to make those same 90 people take another weekend to come to ANOTHER reception. The most important people we want at our wedding will be with us in mexico, and the whole purpose of going away was to avoid the costs of having one at home. Seems redundant to have an AHR to me!

[fudgie]

Nope, not having one. Like most of you said, our purpose of having a DW was to keep it simple and cost. I would love to have a bbq get together for those who couldn't make it, but it doesn't really make sense in our situation - most of those would be FH family and they all live a flight away so they wouldn't even make it to that

[~*Lisa*~]

We've decided not to have an AHR after discussions about it after I read this thread earlier in the week. We really can't afford it and why plan a reception for those who didn't want to join us in Jamaica? A few very close family members will not be able to come to our wedding, so we're planning on hosting a special dinner when we get back for those people.

 

Thanks for all the input/advice, it really does help to know that others are in your situation!