Are you changing your name?
Posted 07 January 2009 - 01:24 AM
I always thought I would not change my name. Although I don't really care what people call me socially, I wouldn't want to change it professionally or legally.. BUT - now my fiance tells me he is not happy with that.
We have been dating for over 9 years and not that we spoke about it much, but I had always said I didn't plan to change my name.. and he never said anything about it... but now that the wedding is getting closer he seems upset about it.. I want him to be happy and I want to be a family with him and be part of his family, but I just don't see why I have to give up my name to do that... A lot of my friends kept their names, but I was wondering what the consensus was here..
Posted 07 January 2009 - 01:29 AM
However I think a lot of women have issues with this, more then choose to admit. Trust me, it's going to be hard after having my last name for the past 31 years!! But I really can't wait to be a Mrs. I think some women think of changing there name as loosing there identity. Myself, I'm ok with it, I just can't help of thinking down the road when we have children it will be so much easier. This way they're not confused, why does mommy have a different last name then us?
I would just explain to your FI why you want to keep your own last name. I don't think men understand how much of a change and pain in the ass it is to do it!!!
Posted 07 January 2009 - 01:48 AM
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Posted 07 January 2009 - 02:07 AM
something to keep in mind - us girls dream of our wedding day and all that it encompasses since we are little girls. I think our men at some point dream of having a Mrs. _______ at some point. don't crush his dream!
Posted 07 January 2009 - 04:42 AM
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