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We were in a similiar situation as this one. My fiance is 31 and has been on his own since he was 17 [went to University in Edmonton]. I am 25 and didn't contribute much except for my excellent taste in style.

 

Anyway, we didn't really want anything from our guests, but we were always being asked. Plus, we aren't having an AHR, except for some small backyard bbq's to just celebrate. We orginally just asked for money to help pay for the wedding because I'm in university so I'm not paying for any of it, my fiance is paying for it all, and my parents chipped in about $2500.00.

 

Finally, my Mom sat me down and told me that there has to be something that we want because there are family members that will not give cash, they will give a toaster or some fugly china or something. So, we decided to go and register at The Bay, Home Outfitters, Sears, and BowRing. Mainly, we just asked for some more towels, and kitchen stuff- like Denby place settings. I'm really glad that we did because people are buying stuff off of our registry. Plus, the kick ass thing about registries is that you recieve a 10% off closing price for like a year after the wedding. So, let's say that The Bay is having a good sale and one of our gifts are on sale at 30% off, we would get an additional 10% off that- making it 40%. We both love to shop, so it just worked out perfectly for us. We ended up registering for more things just so that we could get it all at sale price after the wedding.

 

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We registered about two months ago just to get it out of the way.. and have already had two items sent to us!! (crazy huh?!?).. For those coming to the wedding, the back of our passport invitation says "Your presence is the best gift we could ask for; however, if you desire to give a gift, due to airline baggage restrictions we kindly request a monetary donation to our First Home Fund." (which the account number is given on our website.)

May not be the best etiquette but I wanted to limit the number of gifts taken down to Cabo (from what I read on here, it still happens regardless of whether or not you say "don't give us a gift".) Plus, hopefully we'll get some help on our 1st down payment!!

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Originally Posted by Kristy! View Post
Someone has suggested this before in a similar thread...You can register at a place like Bed Bath & Beyond that gives cash for all returns from your registry. Kind of sneaky, but it could help solve your problem.
We have one for Bed, Bath, and Beyond..which really, has a lot of the same stuff on it as our Macy's registry, so we are planning on doing this in the event that we get two similar items from different registeries..

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So this thread has really made me think - and now I am putting on blush to go to The Bay as we speak!

 

I originally said no registry...but then I got to thinking...our guests will want to give us gifts as they have already been asking. We do need money and from close friends or family, I think this is what we will get. But from others with whom we are not as close or have professional relationships...money would feel inappropriate.

 

For example, we invited FI's boss. They have a close but professional relationship. A gift of money wouldn't feel right in this instance. I am a teacher. My colleagues and students would not feel right about money either...and neither would I. So I think there are some relationships where the appropriate gift is a set of towels...not 5 twentys.

 

Having said this, I am off to The Bay. We already have a lot, but I plan to think in "house guest/ dinner party" terms. So I guess we could use fluffy Egyptian cotton towels, sheet sets for the spare room, a set of crystal stemware for dinner parties, or a nice frame to display our wedding photo. We will also request gift cards.

 

Just a few items to make it easier on those who want to give us something tangible.

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I'm having the same problem! My fiance and I are in the same boat. We have lived together for 2 years now and we have ALL that we need....so my mom has been telling all the guests that have asked, just to give us cash. We still registered at Target though for things that we could upgrade. That's all we could figure out.

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Go ahead and put a few things on the registry for the shower or have a theme -

Wine & Spirits - Everyone brings wine or something for wine, william and sonoma gift cards, etc.

Entertaining - have people bring gifts having to do with entertaining - platters, fun glasses, etc

Outdoors - something to do with sports

Romance - lingerie or couples games etc

 

The reason why I say have something for the shower - I told the party hostess that we didnt need gifts and would prefer money and I STILL got a load of crap I didnt need. Seriously. Ugly useless crap. Some people gave money but most people just dont get it.

In my invites I put a little poem about us having a wishing well. No one came to the wedding but they did mail us checks. Weve put that money away for something big.

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I am with all of you too! My FI and I have been living together in my house for the past two years. We have more than enough household stuff. I told a bunch of my girlfriends that we weren't registering and if anything we would just do a honeymoon registery (to get cash), and you would have thought that I was telling them someone died. I figured by saying that we weren't registering they would get the hint but I guess not. We might have to try the bed bath and beyond route....

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