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#1 Kristy621

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    Posted 06 January 2009 - 12:30 AM

    ok so I was so excited when my FI and I decided to do a destination wedding and it has been great and we have had so much fun, making the invites and picking the place.

    So now the invites are out and people are starting to rsvp and some people I really thought would come aren't. I know that it is a big finacial undertaking to come, and my emotions are running the spectrum. I go from panicing that too many people will come to no one is going to come.

    Am I going crazy or does anyone else go through this? and how did you calm your nerves?
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    #2 ErinB


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      Posted 06 January 2009 - 12:36 AM

      Welcome to the wonderful world of DW planning! I fine wine does a great job of calming me down. And the support of BDW is great therapy!

      There will be people who you think will be there that won't and then some others will surprise you. The most important thing to ALWAYS remember is that you need to do what is best for you and your fiance. Planning will have its ups and downs. Your family and friends will make you cry tears of joy and sadness. In the end, you need to be comfortable with your decision and focus on your wonderful day and the fact that you are joining your life with the person you love. We've all been through it!

      Gook luck!

      #3 Sloan

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        Posted 06 January 2009 - 06:37 AM

        I went from wanting my entire guest list to come to now I wish we were just eloping. We only have 9 people coming and I could care less if anyone else showed up at this point. Its all about me and him and our 2 weeks in JA.

        #4 lil_miss_frogg

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          Posted 06 January 2009 - 11:13 AM

          I know you want them to be there....but all you need is you and your FI....and well the person marrying you....but a DW is what the two of YOU wanted...not what everybody else wanted. I see it as a beautiful wedding with the bonus of going on vacation...they may see it as a finiancial burdon. Who knows the story of why they aren't coming. Maybe there is something going on right now and they just can't afford it. When my FI and I decided to do a DW we decided to keep it in the states (coast of GA) because I wanted my sister to be there and I know that she wouldn't have been able to be there if it was out of the country. She's got a big family so it would be hard for her. Just remember you have us for support and we will help you get through these bumps.

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          #5 2bebridejamaica

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            Posted 06 January 2009 - 11:13 AM

            I agree with this totally.... don't let it get you down... it's all about getting there and being with your hubby to be. I had a huge breakdown when 2 of my girls backed out of coming.. one still I have even talked with since her decision to not even tell me and the travel agent let me know.

            Planning a DW is always a roller coaster ride... Just enjoy it!

            I had 13 people come and I couldn't have cared less once we got down to Jamaica bout the other people... It was perfect!

            #6 Kristy621

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              Posted 06 January 2009 - 11:50 AM

              Thanks ladies. I knew that this was part of the process but I was so sure that it wouldn't effect me... boy was I wrong... LOL

              We just have to let it play out and have the best time possible.
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