If your parents couldn't make it..
Posted 05 January 2009 - 10:31 PM
| Originally Posted by MarieSam |
I think it definitely depends on the type of relationship you have with your parents ~ are you a close knit family? how important is it for them to be there? The other gals bring up good points too ~ why can't they go? Of course if it's illness or physical limitations there's truly not much that can be done. But if it's a matter of schedule conflict or monetary issues, maybe some tinkering of the date or location/venue can solve the problem.
This is truly a subjective matter that really depends on your own situation and set of circumstances. Personally, FI or I would not go forward on our DW plans without our parents ~ we both have very close-knit families and it means a lot to have them there. We both understand and appreciate that this day is about us, but we also know that the people we are today derives from the foundation that our parents have built for us. In our circle, a marriage is not only a bonding of our union but of our families, and luckily our families LOVE each other and have continued to vacation together for years now. So this is really a celebration we want to share with everyone there!!
But I think in every wedding, there are "must-haves" on the guest list, for us, our immediate families happen to be atop that list. Are your parents a "must have"??
Posted 06 January 2009 - 04:37 AM
Posted 06 January 2009 - 09:28 AM
But like others have said, it depends on the relationship you have with your parents, and also what you want out of your wedding day - if you don't mind looking back and not having the memories of your parents being there, well its fine.
Posted 06 January 2009 - 10:35 AM
Posted 06 January 2009 - 11:25 AM
Posted 06 January 2009 - 11:54 AM
So it really does depend on the reason. I am sad my Nana won't be there, as she's too old and ill to travel, but she's happy for us and will be at our AHR. I still feel guilty about it, but she doesn't want me to. Make sure you have a good conversation with your parents. Even if they can't make it...maybe they'll still want you to be happy and to go ahead with your plans. Then, you'd have to figure out if that's acceptable to you!
Posted 06 January 2009 - 11:55 AM
Posted 06 January 2009 - 12:49 PM
So for me.. I consider my wedding.. very much there wedding.. mind you my opinions and how I want things will rein supreme.. but not without some comprimizes...
My parents said they couldn't afford to come to my DW... So I had to decided how badly I wanted to be married on a beach.. Ultimately I wanted to be married in Mexico bad enough. that I am covering thier costs (with no guilt trip) and paying for all thier insurances, transfers and lots of extras (luggage, water shoes, etc).
As we are paying for our own wedding my parents costs are adding alot of $$ but for me it's worth it.
p.s. no one except immediate family knows I am covering thier costs.. cause it's a pride thing, as my DAD is 76 and is very much old fashion.. but I am happy I can give them this holiday...
Posted 06 January 2009 - 03:57 PM
I did, however, want a WEDDING because this, really, is my first one...my first legal marriage was not a good one. If we had gotten married closer, it would have become a circus as I have a large extended family and my fiance didn't want that. We are going to have a party in the spring when it's warmer...it's not exactly going to be a reception but it kinda is and that part satisfies my family.
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