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#1 pdcbride09

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    Posted 05 January 2009 - 06:59 PM

    Would you still have your destination wedding

    #2 Jacilynda

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      Posted 05 January 2009 - 07:07 PM

      Personally I would. This is our day! Plus, we're legally married before, and we're having an at home reception. There are quiet a few brides on here who have had the problem of their parents not being able to make it, but in the end its about you and your FI and how you want to start your new life together.

      #3 YoursTruly

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        Posted 05 January 2009 - 07:10 PM

        I would say it depends on the reason why they could not make it--physical limitations, financial or if they are just trifling (lol)

        #4 clmarti1

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          Posted 05 January 2009 - 07:11 PM

          Personally I wouldn't. For me, it is important for my family to be there, specially my parents. My FI pushed back our day from Nov. to March so that it would coincide with my brother's spring break because I wanted to make sure he was there. But ultimately it's up to you. I hope everything works out!

          #5 Blkatz

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            Posted 05 January 2009 - 07:22 PM

            my parents are not able to make it...my dad is very ill and can not travel. We are getting married before legally with them and FH family and that is fine with us. As long as they are seeing us get married that is all that matters.

            #6 SunBride

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              Posted 05 January 2009 - 07:22 PM

              No. When we said we wanted a DW we said we would only do it if our parents and our 2 sisters could come. Luckily they all did. Many other important people couldn't come but that was our bare minimum so we went ahead anyways.

              Obviously it depends on your own circumstances, such as how close you are to your parents.

              #7 becks



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                Posted 05 January 2009 - 07:25 PM

                I guess the better question is how important is it TO YOU to have your parents at your DW (or to FI to have his parents there). Are they simply not able to make the date, so you could move it? Can they not fly? Are they simply unwilling or uninterested in making the trip?

                For us, there was no question that we wanted our parents there. And we (a) paid for their flights and rooms, (B) scheduled the date to accomodate them. Now, if someone had said, "Oh gee, that's nice but I'd rather stay home and watch baseball" we'd probably have changed our minds about how critical it was to have them there.

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                #8 coppergoddess13

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                  Posted 05 January 2009 - 09:47 PM

                  For me, in my own personal situation, that would be a no. If my parents, or his parents, or my brother or his sister (all the VIPs) couldn't make it for basically any reason, we would plan something different. Its very important to us to have our very close family with us on our wedding day. However, everyone is in a different situations, and as some of the other ladies have mentioned there are reasons to go ahead even if they can't make it. It just depends on your situation!

                  #9 MarieSam

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                    Posted 05 January 2009 - 10:07 PM

                    I think it definitely depends on the type of relationship you have with your parents ~ are you a close knit family? how important is it for them to be there? The other gals bring up good points too ~ why can't they go? Of course if it's illness or physical limitations there's truly not much that can be done. But if it's a matter of schedule conflict or monetary issues, maybe some tinkering of the date or location/venue can solve the problem.

                    This is truly a subjective matter that really depends on your own situation and set of circumstances. Personally, FI or I would not go forward on our DW plans without our parents ~ we both have very close-knit families and it means a lot to have them there. We both understand and appreciate that this day is about us, but we also know that the people we are today derives from the foundation that our parents have built for us. In our circle, a marriage is not only a bonding of our union but of our families, and luckily our families LOVE each other and have continued to vacation together for years now. So this is really a celebration we want to share with everyone there!!

                    But I think in every wedding, there are "must-haves" on the guest list, for us, our immediate families happen to be atop that list. Are your parents a "must have"??

                    #10 tylersgirl

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                      Posted 05 January 2009 - 10:09 PM

                      No, I wouldn't. I have always wanted my dad to walk me down the aisle.

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