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Friends engagement- am I overreacting?

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You could look at it this way, if everyone already knows it is going to happen then she wont have that much thunder surrounding her announcement.

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Not overreacting, you're just oversensitive because you're a btb. Totally understandable hug2.gif

 

A proposal ideally shoudn't be something anyone can overthink. She's kind of ruining it for herself by 'demanding' that it happen a certain time and place. But that's not your problem.

 

Hopefully it'll be great for them. They'll have a great vacation, get engaged and attend your wedding. Worst case for them is that no one will really pay that much attention to their engagement because the wedding is the focal point :)

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No matter what happens- everyone there will be there for your wedding. Think of it this way- You are having your wedding in such a great location she wants to share it with you. If you were having it in your hometown, she probably would not be so excited- take it as a compliment.

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Who says she's going to get engaged then anyway? Most guys dont like to be told when they're going to propose, so I'd be surprised if it even happened.

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omg if i had told h2b i wanted to get engaged and when and where....he would have told me where to go! i don't imagine he would have stuck around for very long at all!

 

no matter who gets engaged on your holiday....everyone is there for YOU!

 

i'm the kind of person who hates attention....so i wouldn't personally mind if someone got engaged during our wedding week - but i do see where your coming from.

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I'm torn on this one! We have close friends coming to our wedding who have been dating for 5 years - we're pushing him to propose on our trip because everyone will be there and it would be amazing to celebrate with them.

 

BUT a few months ago, on the morning of my future sister in law's wedding, my FI's cousin proposed to his girlfriend. It was terrible - he told everyone the night before that he was getting engaged and the whole morning of the wedding he kept making references to it. He made it about him and it was so grating because of the way he handled it - he even proposed after many family members begged him not to, and the bride even asked that he not do it.

 

The newly engaged girl felt so awkward and terrible because she was at someone else's wedding .

 

Anyway, the moral to my story is this - even if you tell them not to there is no guarantee that they will not get engaged (you just have to hope that it won't interfere with your celebration).

 

And if they do get engaged, it's all about how they handle it. If they are low key about it it will be a quick thing, but if they are annoying about it you can bet everyone will be annoyed as well.....

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I'm worried about the same thing -- that my FBIL will propose to his gf at our wedding. It's so irritating because it's family and not friends and ofcourse, it'll be made a big deal. My attitude will be to just go along with it b/c we'll still have our special day :)

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I bet he won't do it lol There is no point worrying about something until it happens. Then when it does as long as its not on your wedding day then it doesn't really matter does it?

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