Guest List Advice

[SgtPepperette]

So as my FI and I are trying to get a guest list together for our wedding, we are running into some roadblocks.

 

We defintely want our immediate family there, but are feeling very conflicted about chosing close friends to invite vs extended family. We want to keep the max. guests attending to 20. And we really would like some of our close friends there over our extended family. I know that sounds horrible. We are nervous on how that would go over. I know its our wedding, and we should invite who we want, but I dont want to hurt feelings or cause drama in our families.

 

Did any of you deal with this? How did you handle it?

[*Heather*]

We totally had this same issue. Except we aren't limited to 20 people, which makes us look even worse. We chose only immediate family and then friends. No extended family. This is because FI hates one of his aunts and one of his cousins and didn't want them at the wedding...and he was told by his mother he had to choose all or nothing. So we (he) chose nothing. This has caused major drama in the family, but we're just assuming they'll grow up and get over it at some point.

 

FI and I are definitely doing things the way WE want them, maybe to a fault. But that's just how it is. We don't see why our wedding is such a big deal to so many people...it's just a wedding! But I guess it is a big deal to some. I think most couples make decisions to avoid drama which is probably good. But we didn't. I don't know if this has helped you at all but I just wanted to let you know that if you do decide to only invite friends and immediate family, you won't be the only "evil" bride&groom out there!

[*Heather*]

Oops double post!