Want a bridal party but no one to ask
Posted 10 January 2009 - 02:18 PM
As it was, he didn't have anyone and I had 2 BMs (my 2 sisters) and one stood on my side and one stood on DH's side.
Why don't you have your 3 sisters be your BMs and your FI have his dad be his groomsman.
Have 2 sisters on your side and 1 next to your FI's dad.
It doesn't have to be even or properly matched.
I'm so glad I had my sisters be my BMs. I didn't have a MOH. I could never pick b/w them. They were just so happy to be up there with me and no one ever asked why we did what we did.
Do what feels right.
Posted 10 January 2009 - 04:25 PM
I'm really sorry you are going through this. In general I don't have very many really super close friends. It was hard when it came time to choose my BP and I had lots of issues with it.
It's ok to not have a BP. I say if you really do want one, then choose the person you feel closest to. It sounds like your friends from NC were there for you when you needed them. If they can make it to the wedding, why not ask?
I'll be in MI in about a month visiting my family (Canton/Dearborn/Westland area). You'd have to drive, but I'll go dress shopping with you!
Hang in there! BDW can get you through anything!
Posted 10 January 2009 - 06:17 PM
why don't you just wait to chose a MOH until closer to the date. Whomever you feel closest to, or has helped you out the most will be your undisputed MOH. And if there is more than one, oh well... or none oh well. Just because his dad is his bestman doesn't mean that you can't have more or none. He can sit in the front row instead of standing up the whole time if it works out better... can still hold the rings and do everything that a BM does. So basically what Im telling you is that YOU make the rules. But since there is no obvious contenders right now, wait until the time is right.
I think there are more brides out there that wished that they would have waited to chose their bridal party until later in the process. Only main problem is that you might not be able to order certain dresses, but if there is only one or 2 you can go to the store... and summer clothes are just coming out- jcrew has cute sundresses year round.
Hope this helps~
Posted 11 January 2009 - 12:31 AM
Posted 11 January 2009 - 03:21 AM
We did it without anyone. It was extremely romantic. It was so relaxing and casual and I remember EVERY moment like it was yesterday. I felt like no one was talking me to death or trying to get my attention. I didnt worry about a thing when I got there. Since I had no guest I didnt even have to worry about making them happy. It was just about me and DH.
I did go through a sad period when I really wanted a bridal party. Its natural.
Posted 14 January 2009 - 11:35 AM
Thank you once again BDW for calming me down, and reminding me that I can make my own rules/traditions at my destination wedding
Posted 14 January 2009 - 05:55 PM
My suggestion is keep doing what feels right for the two of you
Posted 18 January 2009 - 12:14 AM
How about just doing BM's and having your FI just pick groomsmen?
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