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#41 DWandMJ

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    Posted 07 January 2009 - 12:17 PM

    Originally Posted by kennynicole
    We are on an extremely small budget and are footing the bill for the AHR along with travel and wedding cost. Here is our plan……..
    We are going to have a casual AHR actually at our home. We are getting married at the end of Nov. so plan to make it Christmas themed (this cuts back on d©cor since I already have all the stuff to decorate for Christmas). We are going to have it catered but will only be providing appetizers and non alcoholic beverages (I know it’s bad to not have alcohol but we just can’t swing it). By only providing passed appetizers it will keep us from having to set up enough tables and chairs to for everyone. We will have our usual tables and a few extra chairs set out along with living room furniture so those who need to sit should be able to. I plan to wear my dress and have my FI wear his wedding day outfit as well. We will have a picture DVD playing on our T.V. during the party so guest can see all that went on during the trip. A videographer is included in our wedding package so we will also play our wedding video for those who missed it. Just something at home, comfy, and casual! I’m thinking about doing evites for the AHR and calling older family members that are not computer savvy to presonaly invite them to AHR. This is still in the works I have some time so I am not locked on that aspect. Something else I am unsure of is……………………
    Should I invite guest that attending the DW along with those who did not the wedding to the AHR, or is it ok to just invite those who did not attend the DW to the AHR. If I invited both I am guessing that we will have around 100 guest (that’s a lot and will get pricey) if I just invite guest that did not attend the wedding we will have around 50 or so. What are you doing?
    Depending on how great of a deal you can get on the catering, that may be costly too. Have you thought about having a home cooked meal instead. The price per head is soo much cheaper than even doing passed appetizers.

    We too are on a tight budget and I'm hoping to keep it the cost of the AHR under $2000 while it still be quasi semi-formal.

    #42 kennynicole

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      Posted 07 January 2009 - 02:43 PM

      That is a good idea. I have not looked into caterers yet but have heard from a few friends of a few places that quote reasonable prices. I am just worrying about having a place for everyone to sit if we do a full meal.

      #43 Chanti

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        Posted 07 January 2009 - 03:46 PM

        We'll be hiring caterers for an afternoon BBQ at our place, nothing fancy.

        #44 nibsmom

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          Posted 08 January 2009 - 12:43 PM

          HappyGilmore, I love that card box. The scratch and dent is a great idea!! You could totally decorate it the way you want. So cute!

          I was wondering how far after the wedding you all think is appropriate to have an AHR. We need to have two - FI is from IL, and since we live in WI, we can probably do that one right away after getting back, but I'm from MA. Due to our work schedules, the earliest we'd be able to get out there to do an AHR would be November - our wedding is in July! Do you think this is too late??

          KennyNicole, I was just going to invite family. Make them very small. Friends who want to see the video or whatever can just come over for dinner and see it. We aren't really wanting gifts, so we're not going to make it a formal things where our friends and family feel pressured to shell out. I'm kind of looking at it - especially the MA one, as more of a family get together than a reception - I think we'd even make it a bbq if we could.

          #45 jusjenks

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            Posted 13 January 2009 - 05:02 PM

            My fiance and I agreed to plan the AHR when we return from Mexico. The planning for the wedding alone is a tad stressful. One of our friends actually suggested it and it seems to make sense and ease loads of stress. Just a thought.

            #46 DarcyJAde

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              Posted 09 March 2009 - 06:52 PM

              I don't know what to do about that either. We actually have about 40 people attending our wedding. I think in our case most people are coming (surprisingly). So now we are spending a lot more money. I don't think we can swing an ATR. Maybe we can have a small party at our house for the people who can't come?

              [/SIGPIC] 40 PEOPLE BOOKED!!!

              #47 pdcbride09

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                Posted 10 March 2009 - 12:45 PM

                We actually changed our mind on the AHR. We decided a couple of months ago not to do after all. It's too much stress, and most importantly too $$. We have more important things to save for(HOUSE!). If anyone wants to congratulate us, they can stop by our place. I'm so happy we decided not to do it because I was stressing out bigtime about it. Just not worth it to us. The most important people to us will be there in Mexico, so that's really all that matters.

                Good Luck everyone!

                #48 inunez

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                  Posted 10 March 2009 - 02:08 PM

                  i think this is a great post! we are also having a AHR although we're calling it a welcome back party. that's exactly what it's going to be! we both come from Hispanic backgrounds so our families love to party hard! so really...i'm just getting the wedding that i want at an affordable price and making everyone else "happy" with offering them "free food and drinks" for one night. i know it sounds horrible, but i do have quite a few family members who who just attend these kinds of events for the food and liquor.

                  but anyway...we also want to be able to share pictures and video with all of the other people who actually care and just could not afford to make it. we are def not spending a lot of $ on it. i think we're going to spend like $3,000 for AHR.

                  #49 prairiegirl

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                    Posted 11 March 2009 - 04:28 PM

                    To everyone planning the AHR

                    Just had mine on the weekend.. We were married on Feb 6th, got home Feb 16, had the reception March 7th for a 130 people
                    (church blessing - catholic at 6:30, toast/speeches at 8, dance with late lunch)

                    Honestly I though I was gonna go nuts, it was WAAAYYY more work then the wedding.. and I did it ALL myself. My FI helped when asked, but I am bad at asking for help, I'll just do stuff myself...

                    When it was all said and done... IT WAS TOTALLY WORTH IT!! It was the best time! Some of the bar details came up all night, but I had given my FI & his family that headache, so everytime anyone asked, I told them to talk to my FI... it was GREAT.

                    So girls don't worry they stress and the heachaches and then never ending list of CRAP TO DO!! it will be worth it. Wearing the dress a second time was more fun than the first.. We are all getting married twice!! To the same guy!! who gets to do that!

                    So to everyone who is stressing... don't sweat the small stuff, and delegate the night of the AHR. All I know my AHR was more like a house party with 130 of my closest friends... (I think the $2/drinks helped.. hee hee)

                    #50 Jen & Josh

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                      Posted 11 March 2009 - 05:10 PM

                      We are doing a AHR just like a normal wedding reception. I will wear my dress, we will have a DJ. It won't be decorated fancy....we are doing fiesta theme..taco bar, beer, margaritas. Cactus for decoration on the tables with chips and salsa.

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