I have been asking the same thing about "upgrades and free things" for awhile now on here. It seems that no one has really received anything for free except some extra reception time and DJ time. The biggest upgrade I have heard of is getting your room updgraded...but if you don't get it, you'll have to push for it!
I wish the resort would upgrade more since we all are bringing so much business, but maybe it's because they have weddings all the time. I'm not sure. That's what I've learned so far!!!